I've been working from home recently because of on and off contractions (Braxton Hicks) and the fact that I started lightening (as in the baby began dropping). In birth class, it was mentioned that once the baby drops, give it 4 weeks then you'll give birth (which is perfect because that's my 37th week). I guess, she's excited to see us already (we're excited to see you too, sweetheart!!!)

So many thoughts are rushing through my head, mostly revolving on the 3 things I want to tell my daughter -- things I've learned in my XX years of existence. Majority of this, I wouldn't have to tell till she reaches a certain age, but it's best to write them down now so I won't forget.

ONE: Steady dating before graduating in college is tantamount to social suicide.

This was literally the first thing I heard from the late professor of Theology, Dr. Manual Tejido. At that time, I didn't really get what he meant. What's wrong with having a long term boyfriend while studying? It didn't have an impact on my studies - I maintained my grades, and got my scholarship. I was able to maintain good relationship with my friends too (but majority of them didn't like the guy I was dating then -- you know, to the point that they hated him... LOL). We broke up a few months after graduation, tried getting back together after watching One More Chance (because we could totally relate to the story - super controlling guy who you want to strangle + girl who is not yet sure what she wants in life).

The break-up made me remember what Dr. Tejido said. I could have broadened my horizon further, travelled & learned more about the world. I could have made more friends, I could have saved both of us from heartache (& boredom) because in the end, I realized I wasn't really in love and I hated the fact that I've limited my choices because someone wanted me to. Plus, I wasn't mature enough to understand the sacrifices that a relationship entails. I'm not saying, maglandi muna or what and not settle, more of get to know yourself better and, nurture friendships and relationships with your family -- get them bound by hoops of steel. After all, they are the ones who catch your tears every time they fall.

TWO: Friendship is THE BEST foundation of love (romantic relationships).

Yes, I'm one of the fortunate people who got to marry their close friend/best friend  (& we're about to have a baby together! *HIGH FIVE*) First of all, you have a strong mental connection with your friend (same wave length, ika nga).  Second, you feel more secure. They make you happy, they give you companionship, they understand you, and, over time, they show you they can handle your good and bad side.

It's quite scary actually, to only really know someone after you said "yes" to them. Nung hindi mo pa boyfriend or girlfriend, the person wouldn't even burp or fart in front of you. Then when you become official, hala - utot dito, utot dun. Can you imagine spending a lifetime with someone whose quirks you can't tolerate (or find adorable)? Of course, this is just a shallow example but you get the point. Another example -- I'm already "crazy" without the pregnancy hormones, and now that I'm in my third trimester, the hubby sometimes calls me a monster but it's fine, he loves me just as much (he knew perfectly what he was getting into, as I've said we were good friends before we fell in love hihi).


Parents know best (especially, Mothers).

Dearest daughter, I'm not saying your dad and I are perfect and will always be right but do remember that whatever we will advise (or tell) you will always be for your best interest, especially regarding major life decisions.

And, when you reach that age or point in your life when you feel like going ahead and arguing with me, just think about this: WHERE DO YOU THINK YOU GOT YOUR STUBBORNESS FROM? GIVE UP! I have decades more experience than you (I got it from your grandmother, so yeah it's genetic).

And by the way, if your life plan includes marriage, I hope and pray that you find someone like your dad (who loves talking to you every night and telling you to kick me). Yup, we're in love like that. :)

See you soon, our little one. We will have plenty of things to talk about.