The title should give you a little insight into the frustration that I am feeling about this situation. Yes, my big girl is now acting like a toddler again! It is totally infuriating me. I just cannot believe this. I guess I am still fairly new to this parenting thing. I often compare my children's behavior to the way I used to act when I was growing up. I certainly cannot remember a time where I didn't want to go to the Bathroom when I was able to. The situation I am facing right now with my daughter is completely baffling me. I understand that maybe she is upset because she just started school, or that mommy is working out of the home part-time and daddy is no longer home in the evenings like she is used to. I just cannot deal. I try to be calm when she starts jumping up and down showing signs that she really needs to pee pretty badly. Before, she would verbally announce that she had to go really badly and take off to the bathroom. I would ask her while she's on her way if she needs help getting her pants unbuckled and everything. 9 times out of 10 she did not need my help.
I have been working on my computer a little more frequently in the evenings because I only work part-time. I have said that I do not want to get up and do certain things but those are just words, I have always gotten up off my butt to help her and her brother out if they put forth the initial effort to do something. My girl is just not even trying to physically get herself to the bathroom. This seems to be happening when she's in a private place like at home or at her grandparent's house. So far she has only had one accident at school and that was simply because she must have been too shy to ask at the time or her class was outside. Now, when we are out in the car or at the store she has no problem communicating that she needs to go to the bathroom and we have been able to get her to a bathroom right on time. Even when we feel she should have had an accident because the bathroom is just too far away, she has been able to hold her bladder until we get home. I just do not understand why she is only having this problem in private places, I feel like it should be the total opposite.
I did a search on this issue and found a reassuring article on a site I have never been to before, called KidsGrowth.com. Most of the article is directed towards parents whose child is having problems at school. Here is what their article says about the issue in general:
Emotional Stress is a frequent cause of Daytime Wetting. The incontinence may begin after a known stress, such as starting kindergarten or a new school, the death of a relative, or a family illness. Most of the time, however, incontinence due to stress has no readily identifiable cause. The common age-range for this reaction to stress is from ages four to twelve. If the cause of her stress is identified and eliminated, the problem usually disappears within weeks. If not, the frequency may persist for two to three months.If the child is a girl, using bubble bath or heavily scented toilet paper can cause an inflammation of the urethra and produce daytime Wetting and Urinary Frequency.Constipation can also be associated with daytime wetting. It is thought that the pressure of the stool in the large intestines triggers a reflex in the bladder, causing the child suddenly to void during the day.Occasionally, a child with urinary frequency will be found to drink a large number of drinks containing caffeine, which can cause this symptom. Certain soft drinks, such as Mountain Dew®, Dr. Pepper® and Sprite® are often associated with urinary frequency. Reducing the child's caffeine intake usually stops the frequency.Ninety-five percent of voiding problems in children are functional. Having your child checked by their pediatrician and performing a urinalysis will usually identify the five percent that have a medical cause.Treatment consists of reducing the youngster’s embarrassment and reducing the parent’s frustration. Parents often assume that their child’s daytime wetting and urinary frequency is due to laziness or silliness. Criticism and punishment will only prolong the problem. It will be important to reassure the child that there is nothing wrong with their body, and that they will gradually return to a normal pattern.Like I mentioned before, I am not with my children 100% of the time so there's really no telling what kind of drinks they are consuming while I am not there. I am guilty of allowing them to have some of my soda and small sips of my coffee but my daughter has had none of that today. She did have a bit of orange juice earlier but other than that, she has had only water today. I have asked her and she says she has no pain when she pees so I highly doubt she has a UTI. If she's in pain, she always lets us know. Well, I will try my best to not react severely if she has another accident before the week is over. We are up to about 5 accidents this week! I will let make a better effort to ask her periodically if she needs to go to the bathroom. Now that I think about it, she only seems to want to go to the bathroom now if I am going myself. That's just not going to fly anymore. I guess I will have to take a couple of fake trips to the bathroom to trick her into going. I would love to hear from anyone else out there who has dealt with this and what helped make it STOP.
Read the entire article from KidsGrowth.com here: http://www.kidsgrowth.com/resources/articledetail.cfm?id=214