I am often astonished at how much less I write here than I used to, and for a while, I attributed it to the speed of life. There have been so many changes - substantive changes - in my life in the last two years that I can barely keep up.

For a while, I was trying to peg some freelance writing work to the news cycle - writing about depression when Kate Spade was discovered to have committed suicide and realizing that by the time I wrote my piece it was Anthony Bourdain that was in the news and by the time I heard back from an editor, the world was talking about North Korea and then the next school shooting and then family separations at the border.

Funny how much that felt like my life.

Separation after 23 years of marriage followed by (or in the midst of) my oldest daughter's senior year in high school with the attendant college preparation/final Homecoming/Prom/graduation. Searching for an alternative to the youngest daughter's school and finding the Running Start program that allows her to enroll in community college in lieu of finishing at her high school followed by divorce and moving to a new home. Watching my mom descend further in to herself and trying to help arrange for her move to a long-term facility and preparing to help my daughter now move across the country for college.

The speed of life.

As I walked the dogs in the cool mist this morning, I realized that part of what has been weighing on me is a feeling of failure - that I am doing so many things and none of them very well. I've sold some writing, but not enough to live on. I bought a new house and there are still pieces of furniture where I don't want them and the outdoor space isn't as inviting as I want it to be. I don't cook as often as I used to and I am afraid I'm not showing up for my girls in the way they want me to.

But when I took a moment to really say those words in my own head - to bring them out of the shadows where they play havoc with my heart - I realized that I've actually done a pretty damn good job in the last two years simply by putting one foot in front of the other. The fact that I've sold any writing, finished my manuscript, bought and sold a house, navigated the end of a decades-long marriage, and managed to stay upright and kind and tell my girls every damn day that I love them is almost a miracle. If I've failed in any way, it was a failure to accurately assess what my future was going to look like, and I think it's a human trait to be pretty bad at that kind of prediction, isn't it? By making an effort to stay grounded in who I am and what's important to me and focusing on the next best step, I've strung together quite a path thus far, so while the news cycle of my life is still hurtling along at a fairly fast clip, I know it won't always be like this. I'm just going to hold on and keep doing what I've been doing for the next little while and believe in my own abilities.