In the recent year of intense self-reflection (maybe borderline navel-gazing) I have come to the realization that I am a liar. In my lack of boundaries, need to take care of others, fear of abandonment, avoidance of shame and guilt, I lie. I have Lied to others and I lie to myself. I lie often.  There is one lie in particular that I have long promised myself to write about. I lied to someone