I feel friends come in stages…when you need them the most. Some stay on while others move on leaving you with something more than what you had before they came into your life.
I was always the new girl in class, because we moved around a lot. So, groups were already made and if you got lucky you could hang out with the other new joiners or the person nobody in class wanted to be with. I studied in an all girls school till I was 13. You would think its little girls in pig tails and pink skirts, well these nice girls bullied me and I hated my first 5 years of school. As a result I got into a lot of fights where the parents came and complained to my mother that you have a misbehaved child who beats up my child. Anyway that was when I was really young.
I reach my 8th class and I finally join a co-ed school. I got over my culture shock and blended in well. I found my closest friends in that school. One of them is a boy, I feel its so easy being friends with a boy. He will never be jealous if you have better clothes or if the cutest boy in school has a crush on you. My story of how I became his close friend in school is simple… I helped him get the hottest girl in school to go out with him. Its so easy with boys…so we become great friends (and still are by the way) we hung out and discussed our lives traumas, which were math and history at that time. And when the time came, he moved to a different city, I thought I lost my friend then but no he kept in touch and made his monthly calls. I have another close friend from that time and when she moved away I kept in touch and I made the effort. And today the three of us are the closest people.
That was in school, now when I came into college I realized its so much tougher being friends with women. The major reason being - MEN. When women become close friends they mostly swear they will never let a man come in between their friendship and you know the saddest part is no matter how much we swear eventually it’s a man who comes in between two women. There are three scenarios where a man comes in between women. 1. the most obvious, the girls fall in love with the same guy. 2. the boyfriend tells his girlfriend shit about her friend and the girlfriend believes him. 3. the girlfriend thinks that her friend is hitting on her boyfriend when things are actually quite opposite. So, the MAN is actually quite a pain for women friendships especially in college when you are really trying to fit in and find your self etc etc. But I managed to make a set of friends who I was close to in college and with whom I shared my traumas which involved getting to class on time after a night out.
Then I started working and a whole new world opened up for me. I met new people and I was basically leading a very different life compared to college. I thought my work people were god sent because if it weren’t for them I would not have survived it. But as time passed I realized not all are really what they seem. There is a lot of competition underneath all of it. The rules of friendship change when you start working. Everyone is looking after their own agenda and you are just a means to an end. I seriously doubt anyone can make any lasting friendships at work.

I feel you make your closest friends in school, when you are all innocent and your greatest worry is winning the next basket ball match!!! The funny part is the people I rarely chatted with in college, I actually hang out and talk to them so much more now after college is over!! Life is funny!!

If you look closer, you might see someone like you. Someone trying to find their way. Someone trying to find their place. Someone trying to find their self. Sometimes it seems like you are the only one in the world who's struggling, who's frustrated, unsatisfied, barely getting by. But that feeling's a lie. And if you just hold on, just find the courage to face it all for another day, someone or something will find you and make it all okay. Because we all need a little help sometimes-someone to helps us hear the music in their world, to remind us that it won't always be this way. That someone is out there. And that someone will find you."