Have you ever dated someone that was physical challenged or even mental challenged? Well I have done both.
Years ago I met JAB over the telephone. I believe I was in high school. Like 10th or 11th grade. Give or take. I did not have the capability of meeting him in person until I started driving around the age of 17. Back then it was l……..o……..v……..e……. LMBAO Then we agree to meet. The first that that was funny as right before I left my house. He was like….. J I have to tell you something. And I was like what….. he was like I have cerebral palsy. And I was like ok. (Like I knew what it was) I proceeded to meet him at the designated place….. NE DC late night. (Boy were we dumb when we was younger.) I met him. We clicked. And we proceeded to date. I found out a months later he had lied about his age. Told me he was the same age………………. I was. NOPE! He was 4 years younger. (Before statutory rape was a thing!) I felt as though it could have worked. But he ended up getting a BIG head dating an older woman and was gaining the interest of other girls at school. So I ended it. The last time I spoke to him I was pregnant with Boo. And he wanted a do-over. I declined…… Always wondered what could have been…….
His disability did not affect me. It affected those around us. But it was a major issue for him.
Fast forward to present day………….. DC……
He would never admit it….. but he was not all there! I have not been able to put my finger on it. But he has always lived at home. His family treats him like a child. He is not self sufficient. But I did not let that bother me. I truly loved him. And was willing to work through those issues with him. But he never understood life. Or at least the real way that life is lived. He never realized what was right in front of him. I have a friend who’s son has Asperger syndrome…. so that is what I diagnosed DC with! LOL The sad part….. is wondering what could have been! But after being cheated on by RBR. There is no way I will deal with that again. I do not deal with sloppy seconds. If I’m not the one and only…… then I would rather be SINGLE! He changed in the 8 months that we dated. His family said I was a good GF. But I think he would rather deal with randoms. Chicks that will fuck anyone. Looking for love in all the wrong places. Chicks that just want ya money, and what you can do for them. Chicks that is all about themselves. Give you the little you want and ask for the world.
My problem is that I want/need a man that is a man. Someone who is self sufficient. Someone who has a job, place, dreams/aspirations in life, hopefully a car. Kids are not a factor as long as you are handling your business. Preferably a non smoker, and non drinker. Honest, trust worthy, reliable, etc etc etc. I use to think I would get married one day. SMH I guess that can still happen at this late date and time. We will see. Time will tell.
I finally have total closure on DC. I am moving forward with my life. I really really really want to relocate back to the east coast. But mini me is loving it here in OKC. So I will stay for a minute. She is settled in her life. Busy busy busy Girl scouts, gymnastics, soon 4H. Looking for a change.
