There are two ways to look at the world: the positive and negative way. People with a  negative world view take a victim stance,seeing life as a continuous succession of problems and a process of unfairness and oppression.They don’t expect a lot and they don’t get much.When things go wrong, they shrug their shoulders and passively Accept that this is the way life is and there isn’t anything they can do to make it better.
   People with a  positive view see the world around them as filled with opportunities and possibilities. They believe that everything happens as part of a great process designed to make them successful and happy. They approach their lives,their work, and their relationships with optimism, cheerfulness, and a general attitude of positive expectations.They expect a lot and they are seldom
disappointed.
Talk about your problems
   This is achieved by simple exercise of self-disclosure. For us to truly understand ourself, or to stop being troubled by things that may have happened in our past, we must be able to disclose ourselves to at least one person. We must  get rid ourselve of those thoughts and feelings by revealing them to someone who won’t make us feel guilty or ashamed for what has happened.
Learn from mistakes
   When we develop the skill of learning from our mistakes, we become the kind of person who welcomes obstacles and setbacks as opportunities to flex our mental muscles and move ahead. We will look at problems as rungs on the ladder of success that we grab onto as we pull our way higher.

    Two of the most common ways to deal with mistakes are invariably fatal to high achievement. The first common  way to handle a mistake is the failure to accept it when it occurs. According to statistics, 70 percent of all decisions we make will be wrong. That’s an average. It is hard to believe that most of the decisions we make could turn out to be wrong in some way. So if this is the case, how can our society continue to function at all?
   The fact is that our society,our families,our companies,and our relationships continue to survive and thrive because intelligent people tend to cut their losses and minimize their mistakes.It is only when people refuse to accept that they have made a bad choice or decision-and prolong the consequences by sticking to that bad choice or decision-that mistakes become extremely expensive and hurtful.

   The second common approach that people take with regard to their mistakes,one that hurts innumerable lives and careers, is the failure to use our mistakes to better ourselves and to improve the quality of our mind and our thinking.Learning from  mistakes is an essential skill that enables us to develop the resilience to be a master of change rather than a victim of change. The person who recognizes that he has made a mistake and changes direction the fastest will win in an age of increasing information,technology and competition.

 Here are three steps that we can take immediately to put these ideas into action.

Imagine that our biggest problem or challenge in life has been sent to us at this moment to help us,to teach us something valuable.Try to find What could it be?

Be willing to cut  losses and walk away if  we have made a mistake or a bad choice. Accept that we are not perfect, we can’t be right all the time, and then get on with our life.

Learn from every mistake we make. Write down every lesson it contains. Use the mistakes in the present as stepping stones to great success in the future.

Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.

                                                                                  Oscar Wilde