The ultimate act of self love– 
Self-acceptance. 

My whole life I’ve been so busy trying to “fix myself”, rejecting what was already there.
“I’ll be able to love myself when and if - that and that happens. When I achieve that certain thing or I become so and so....” 
All the while my poor self - my poor body, my poor soul, continued inadvertently getting hurt in the process, and so attaining the exact opposite of what I set out to achieve. 

The busier I was in my own mind, trying to do something seemingly “good” for myself- I mean “fixing” myself that has to be right, right? What’s wrong with wanting to be better... faster, stronger, (thinner) more and always more of (insert desirable adjective)? 

But the more I fixated on all the ways I was wrong or had to improve and everything I had to change, the more unloved, hurt, defective and defeated I felt.
It was a never ending cycle of shame, self-disgust, and I was just another DIY project I could never get just right and so my “prize” of finally being able to accept myself, and just be, just breath and chill - never ever came. 
Until one day, something in me said - fck it. 

Fck it all 
Simple as that. I have tried every method, every path to this so called elusive state of happiness- freedom, and it just doesn’t happen. It’s not happening for me. 
You know what Fiorella, a voice I now recognise as my soul said - 
Eat that cake, be to your heart’s desire...
You know better girl. Follow that crazy, wild heart of yours. It knows 
Forget everything you’ve ever been told about how / who you should be, how you should present and exist in this world...
And just do you, my love.
Forget the labels, let other people drive themselves mad trying to put you into a box, into every box you’ve now broken free from
You are free to be, my love 

You are free
 
To be
 
Love 

And the truth of the matter is:
(Disclaimer- for those who like myself, have also been a bit hesitant to give this self-love thing a go - assuming you will turn into a self-indulgent asshole)

In my experience, the very opposite tends to happen, because it’s only when we have love within us, that we can then share it with the world... 

And maybe that’s all we here for 
To share the love