My bro told me (who I think is a hidden genius), said that the humans are more like Emotional Springs, the more you press the more the speed with which it springs back. He also explained how it is relevant, for example the more a person devalues their own feeling, something they are actually feeling, the more uglier forms it will take while springing back. For example, my toxic trait is screaming and shouting in an argument, in my relationship initially it was taken as screaming and shouting and then in a few years time it became verbal abuse, which makes sense. But the way you would react to something you repeatedly dislike is progressively worse. For example, people have called me an over-thinker, living in my brain kind of a person, but over time it started affecting me, in the sense that it makes me question everything I do or say or feel. I know I am an over-thinker, but with time when people throw that in my face during a conflict, it makes me very doubtful of my feelings which I am very skeptical to begin with. As a result that leads to outbursts lately and subsequent breakdown and removal of relationships. I have no friends, family members tolerate me, and my future has a cat on it. Which is actually not bad, considering I won’t be able to hurt a cat (I think).

Anywho, what I meant to say was that it is difficult to judge who does what and why, not everything can be resolved, and somethings are very confusing for some people like say relationships.