In today’s world it’s easy to be overindulgent. With food and drink, with materials objects, with external stimulation, but one thing that’s rarely talked about is being overindulgent in sexual gratification.

Unfortunately, for many men overindulgence in sexual gratification can leave us weak-willed, spineless and listless. Not ideal. It’s time to learn what Taoists and Zen Masters have known for millennia, how to increase your own sexual energy for higher energy levels, more decisiveness and more masculinity.

The Microcosm Orbit

Do you feel tired, lazy, or even apathetic towards your partner (after sex) or life (after masturbation) as soon as you cum? It’s no secret, after we ejaculate most men don’t particularly feel like conquering the world, but that doesn’t have to be that way.

In Tao, the male ejaculate is highly regarded for it’s life extending and invigorating properties, and Taoists believe that recklessly squandering it through masturbation or unbridled amounts of sex can be harmful in the long term. Their belief is that the sperm containing male ejaculate takes an incredible amount of energy for the body to produce – that it is the life-force of the man.

Scientific studies have confirmed the presence of cerebrospinal fluid in semen, but it’s obvious even to a lay person that millions of exact-DNA-life-producing sperms must take considerable effort, energy and resources to produce.

There is a Zen saying; “it takes ten pieces of bread to make one drop of blood, and it takes ten drops of blood to make one drop of semen.”

Because of this Taoists and Zen Masters take special efforts to conserve their semen. The well-known Zen Master Mantak Chia even went as far as to ejaculate only once for the conception of his child.

Let’s face it though, for most of us that isn’t really going to be possible. We need the release now and again. But that doesn’t mean we can’t takeaway something useful. These Zen Masters practice what’s called the ‘microcosmic orbit’ which essentially takes the sexual energy that ‘stagnates in the genitals’ and uses breathing to push that energy around the body. This way, the energy isn’t depleted and lost forever via ejaculation, but rather absorbed back throughout the body.

This is one of the ‘try it before you believe it’ things. Try refraining from masturbation for a couple of months whilst regularly doing the microcosmic orbit, and then tell me you have trouble talking to the cute girl at Starbucks. Your body will be so full of sexual energy you’ll find yourself walking over and saying hi without even thinking about it. Approach anxiety?? Pffttt, cultivate enough sexual energy and approach anxiety will become a thing of the past.

On a side note, this is why watching porn can be so damaging for some men. The endless stimulation allows men to masturbate far beyond any amount they would naturally.

Take it one step further and have sex, but don’t ejaculate at the end, (you could even learn how to make her ejaculate instead.) Finish the session without ejaculating (and with a much more satisfied partner) and then do ten minutes of the microcosmic orbit and tell me you not ready to conquer the world.

Food and Sexual Energy

The old adage of You Are What You Eat isn’t just a way to cut back on sweets and fatty foods during the holidays. It’s about fueling your body in order for it to perform the way you want it to.

The clinical research on the impact of nutrition leaves absolutely no doubt – healthy food means a healthier body and higher sex drive. End of story. If, for you, that means a drastic change in your diet, then it’s time to decide what’s more important – the burger or your orgasm. Enough excuses and hemming and hawing – you know if your diet is out of whack and, if it is, get it together.

Move More

The other part of fueling your body is getting it to move. On this score I think guys are more inclined to get on board without a lot of excuses. After all, if you’re already looking for ways to become more vital then you’ve committed to ending the couch potato lifestyle.

The trick with using movement to enhance sexual energy is to include exercises and activities that directly contribute to improve sexual performance. That means getting outside to soak up the sun and let the power for nature invigorate you naturally. Weightlifting helps increase testosterone levels naturally, with movements like squats and deadlifts being the two most effective ones for testosterone production.

The study of how nature affects our bodies is an area of science that can truly amaze. Ecotherapy has become one of the hottest and most dynamic areas of study thanks to recent findings like show time spent outdoors can lower depression, increase mental focus and clarity and contributes to better overall health.

Visualize Success

Visualization is another key part to harnessing your sexual energy and channeling it wisely. In order to achieve a goal, you simply must be able to define what that goal is.

Visualization can also be used to give a physical tangibility to the energy you want to harness. Being able to visualize your sexual, masculine energy as a color or physical presence will help you as you undergo breathing techniques and mediations designed to help you focus that energy to your core.

If you struggle with the visualization process it may be that you’re having a hard time with a new frame of mind – especially if spirituality is a new area for you. Don’t beat yourself up about this – accepting your current limitations is the only way to expand them.

Instead, start slowly and with no pressure. Simply sit quietly, focus on your breathing and try to create a visualization that works for you. While colors and textures are the common metaphors people use for visualization, you are free to choose whatever form makes you most comfortable. This could be a literal fuel gauge, a volume of water or liquid or even just a sense of volume within yourself. Remember, there are no right or wrong answers and the only way to get it wrong is to never try.

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