Last night…“Do you know what tomorrow is?,” she asked.
My mind raced in a bit of a panic – what did I forget? Then I remembered, “It’s your wedding anniversary!”
“Right! Mike and I would have been 30 years tomorrow!” I walked over and gave her a hug and gently rubbed her back. Little more was said…
This morning…as I was leaving for work…
“I know today may be tough; just remember that I love you and I think the sun shines out of your ass!” She chuckled and smiled at the reference to the movie, Juno, and said, “That was so sweet!” I kissed her goodbye and headed out the door to work.
The Healing is never fully complete. Something – an anniversary date, a picture, a friend from the past, a milestone for one of the kids – always draws her back…briefly.
With time, the raw emotions are lessened, but the healing is never complete, and healing never means forgetting.
One of the first things she ever said to me was that she was looking for a ‘new normal.’ I knew that ‘new normal’ meant he would always be in her heart; I just needed to know there was room enough in there for me. There is…
