Hi Guys!
I do hope this blog post finds you well...
If not, just remember you have eyes, a decent Internet connection and the ability to read the ramblings of a 23 year old Londoner. So life's pretty good!
Now smile for me!
Soo from the blog title you can gather what this post is going to be about... uh-huh, I'm going to talk about the single life. Woohoo!
First of all, can I just say being single, not a bad thing. It's not some shameful hat we have to wear to show the world of our damming ways. It's just a temporary thing, unless you're single by choice in which case, do you boo!
That being said, I don't think it's good to sit on your bum, twiddling your thumbs waiting for your knight in shining armour to whisk you off your feet. I'm aiming this one at the ladies! Seriously, you are single for a reason, whether it's by choice or because you keep taking trips to Douchebag'r'Us. Take that single time and work on you!
Now, I'm not going to dissect each and every one of my failed relationships but I will say this: trying to convince yourself that you're ready to be in a relationship is a sure-fire way to a failed relationship. I did this a lot.
The worst thing you can do to yourself (as well as the other person involved) is to tell yourself over and over again that you like this person enough to be in a relationship with them. I did this in my last "relationship" and it wonderfully backfired on me.
I'm sure many can relate to this but it's nice being liked, you know! Especially when the person really likes you and you start to think 'well I'm not going to get any better than this' so you stick around and hope for the best - and that my dears is what you call SETTLING!
So after I got out of my "relationship" I started thinking about stuff, well me, I started thinking about me. It was the first time I asked myself, 'are you actually ready to be with someone? Or were you just lonely?' because those are two different things. Which brings me to my next point...
Don't confuse loneliness with wanting to be in a relationship.
It's like sometimes when you think you're hungry but actually you're just thirsty - this is a thing by the way.
At some point you have to ask yourself, 'am I ready to share myself with somebody else?' I did not realize how important that is until recently because I really wasn't ready for that. Opening myself up, sharing my feelings, talking about my past, I couldn't do it. I was a closed book so yes *Bob, if you're reading this, you were right, kinda. Still a prick though.
So now its time to find yourself, corny, cliché but true. Go on a rediscovery of you. Figure out those things that make you a great person, for me it was rediscovering books again and returning to blogging. I'm loving having time to myself and working towards the things I want to achieve in the future because when you do meet someone and get into a relationship you have to bring something to the table right? What's your ying to his/her yang?
| Being single means taking the time to admire pretty flowers - Chanel L |
I do Love my romantic comedies but boy do they distort some things for me. Typically, I know what to expect out of a Relationship because I know what I want but sometimes I do wonder if those things are heavily influenced by the type of movies I've watched over the years - The Notebook, Dear John, Love Rosie type of movies...
Does that type of love even exist?
Anyways! The morale of the story is, don't jump out of the plane if your parachute is not strapped on properly.
That makes sense right? Good.
x
