Failure. I know the old saying is that "it's better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all." but let's face it -- Failure hurts. It's like the other saying, "it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved." Philosophically, I'm sure that's true, but I don't live philosophy, I live a real life where failing -- or losing love -- is the more painful alternative. And regardless of our ideals, I think many people are the same.

I don't mean one should avoid trying things when there is a risk of failure, or that one should never love in order to avoid loss. Clearly you have to live life fully even in the absence of any guarantees. I just believe it's better not to candy-coat the truth: failure sucks a lot worse than any missed opportunity.

That being said, I wholeheartedly believe it's better to try, whether you succeed or fail, than to live a fear-based life.

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