Dr. Phil calls them " Right Fighters". These people are the ones who always have to have the last word.  They'll send you a rude text message with an " exclamation mark" and expect you to be ok with that.  Right fighters love tension. Love to create a situation where in the end they will " win" because they are just right.  And in their world... THEY- ARE -ALWAYS-RIGHT!

Reality check: Shut up!!! OMG. Seriously?!  How can you always be in a tension-filled environment? Sometimes, nobody really cares about the point you're trying to make. Just let it go, leave it alone. Even if you think you're right, keep it to yourself. Unless asked. 

Right fighters are the people who listen to the side of your story in order to argue. They don't listen to understand. "All they see or hear or text is their point! And there's no other avenue! Take it or leave it!" Do you see how agressive that is written?  Didn't you take that like I was yelling?  That right there is an example of how a right fighter works and operates.

I used to be a right fighter. And sometimes I still act like I am. I needed to check myself a lot and quick because there were/are many times I am wrong.  In certain situations, as I learned to let go of my need to be right all the time, I started gaining insight of other people's perspectives. I may not have agreed, but I got a clearer understanding of where someone was coming from.

I have a habit of dismissing situations, and not wanting to further talk about them. Am I right in doing that NO, but I don't like arguments for very personal reasons. If I can avoid tension situations, and negative environments, I do. There are times where talking things out, aren't even an option with me, because I fear things ending up in an escalated argument. It's something I'm still working on adjusting, because I know that situations don't get solved that way. 

But at the SAME time, I don't create D-R-A-M-A.  I don't go around looking to pick a fight. Sometimes it's okay to just let things be. As I wrote in a previous blog post, there is no need to entertain everything you see. There are some people out there who crave issues. Nothing is ever right enough in their world. Something always has to be wrong. And because they are King or Queen " Put their foot down" they MUST say something.  When in reality, their two sense really has no value.

I try my best to stay very very far from drama, from tension, & from up and downn situations. AHHHH!! Go away with all that!  I know that I am not always right. I try not to be a right fighter, hell, I try not to fight period. Right fighters, cannot be defeated (in their world). Everything for them is one-sided.

In my world, there are only few things worth fighting for. If the fight isn't fair, better believe I'm not engaging in it. I don't have the need to be right, I have the need to be to understood and loved unconditionally despite what we may agree or disagree on. If you can't catch the concept in that, then, there's no NEED for you to be in my life then right?


Miss Trish