Sometimes, I think this lie, told to me with all the good intentions and love of family and friends, may be the root of my problems.You're a good boy. You're a smart boy. There's someone out there for you. Just work hard and it'll all work out. You're funny. People are all good at heart. Etc, etc, etc.I've always said as a youth and college kid, "just tell me, good or bad, just tell me exactly