Most believe that life is difficult and it is easy to focus on where you WANT to be, or where you THINK you should be.

I believe this type of thinking stunts us and low key makes us ungrateful af. Think about how far you’ve come. Think about how many things you’ve prayed for last year that has come to fruition this year. Don’t take that for granted .

You were on probation last year, now you are off .. Celebrate that.

You were in between jobs, now you’re settled in a job on your third pay check ..celebrate that.

You were in a toxic relationship, you got out.. celebrate that.

You were in school crying at the amount of work you had, you’ve graduated .. celebrate that.

You felt alone and unloved, you are now in a positively reciprocated relationship.. celebrate that.

The list goes on. To help me put things in perspective, because sometimes it isn’t easy to do so, I’ve started to give myself Affirmations.

the assertion that something exists or is true.

Instead of thinking about all the things I NEED or WANT to do in the future, I think about everything I HAVE now in this present moment. Everything I’ve accomplished thus far and I take time to appreciate the little victories.

Take some time now and either think about or write out some affirmations. What are some real truths about yourself that you don’t usually acknowledge.

Otivia’s Tuesday Affirmation examples.

I am a holder of two degrees

I am no longer in toxic relationships

I have found my inner peace

I have found my independence

I pay my own bills in my own space

I am growing my business on my own

I maintain a car that is in my name

Now understand, last year I had only 2 out of the 7. All things I’ve prayed for and faught for but as soon as it happened I acted like it was regular degular shemgular and just started looking for the next thing. NAHH… celebrate those wins and understand that everything that’s for you is for you no matter what. It just takes time.

Yes, I will always have GOALS and think about my future but I feel like affirming where you came from and where you are in your present is important for your sanity and mental health . Thinking too much about the future only gives me anxiety, because it is too unknown.

We all see where it got MS Cleo  fraudulent self , and  where it use to get Raven in every episode of “Thats so Raven”. I don’t think sis ever solved a problem without making an even BIGGER problem.

I said all that to say this, slow down and smell the roses of your present successes. Stop worrying about the future you because the present you will shape whoever you are going to be in the future. Every decision you make today will impact tomorrow. The thing is you have to make a decision. Don’t hold off on your plans, don’t hold off for later. Plant those seeds, water them and watch them flourish.  Don’t forget to sweat yourself and be on your own body. Affirm Affirm Affirm!!!

You’ve been an amazing crowd! Get home safely,

-Otivia