In every Relationship there comes a time when  you set some goals and hit some milestones. It is natural that women and men set certain standards for each other in hopes of maintaining a happy relationship.

I haven’t had too much experience in relationships but even for a person like me there are certain goals that I set for myself and my significant other. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. At first, things were great, not too much fighting, everything seemed pretty in pink, Of course, later fights happened. The good, the bad. But I think it is normal that in every relationship you have issues and you try your best to solve them.

I’m siting right now and thinking… We have been together for 2 years. We live together and talk about marriage someday. But what relationship milestones we hit so far? In every blog, website, Youtube video they describe these milestones as important and some more funny steps in your relationship.

The Huffington Post explains 7 relationship milestones that are as important as marriage. First, they say that as soon as you recover from your first big disillusionment it means that you are on the right track. Meaning that every couple sometimes does something dishonest or wrong and when you forgive and move on, that often makes your partnership that much stronger. It also says that it is important to understand that relationship cannot be equal step by step. In some things the female might be in control but in others – the man has the last say. No matter how much feminism and others try to change it, this will always be a part of every relationship out there and I agree with that completely. Sometimes you just have to let the other person to take care of you. The article mentions that if you can laugh during sex, apologize each other from the heart or see your lover at their worst and still stay by their side – these are the signs that your relationship is strong and you can take some punches. I have experienced all of those milestones and often they are hard to deal with. The second you can talk or laugh during sex it means you are comfortable with your partner and who you are. Now my boyfriend has seen me looking crazy, insane, messy and every kind of other way. So have I. But we are still in each other’s lives.

Now another one of my favorite websites Buzzfeed has an article about little milestones in every relationship that feel so damn good. The ones that me and my boyfriend have done include deleting all those dating apps and accounts, constantly interacting with each other on social media, becoming familiar with their friends and family, giving each other nicknames, not being afraid to say ‘Your breath stinks’ (hey I just want you to look presentable for the public), going to the bathroom together, farting in front of each other, taking care when one of us get sick (my boyfriend has done that multiple times, thank you Boo), trying out new things and just being comfortable with each other in silence. We have done all of those things. There are few that doesn’t really apply to us since we do live together and our relationship has been so complicated. I think that after you hit the smaller milestones, you can move on to the bigger ones. Relationships just grow stronger once you just relax and live your best life.

I think that’s what makes us stronger than others. We have been through hell and back in the 2 years we have been together. Our different personalities and cultural differences makes us fight like dog and cat but at the end of the day we know that we love each other and only want whats best. I see some couples that have been together for a lifetime and they haven’t experienced as much of bad and good as we had, but hey, different strokes for different folks.

If someone out there is having trouble understanding their significant other or facing these hard challenges, just know that you are not alone. Trust me, it passes and it gets better. Nothing is as bad as it seems at the moment. I know it. I am the overthinking, over-reacting queen and I’m not proud of it. Just hold tight!

That’s all for now.

xoxo, ADL.