Trying to like everything and be likable by everyone really blows.
That may sound insensitive or rude, but it’s true. Trying to be happy and Healthy and loving about everything all the time is just ridiculous. It’s unrealistic.
Being completely honest, it makes Perfect sense for you to hate one of your coworkers. Or that one guy that clicks his pen over and over in class. Or the girl that sarcastically answers all of your questions even when you weren’t asking her (you know who you are).
It makes perfect sense that you don’t want to be nice to those people. It makes sense that you want them to skateboard into a wall (please, if this happens, don’t be the reason it happened. And don’t laugh in their face. The least we can do is not be blatant jerks).
It’s totally normal and human and realistic that you feel this way. In a world where we’re pressured to always be better, we feel bad for despising when someone smacks their food in restaurants because we feel like we’re not being very nice. But that’s the thing: we can hate those things without slamming their plate in their face. We can hate those things and be totally annoyed without driving us to get kicked out of the establishment. We can hate those things and still live with them.
I think we need to be more accepting of the fact that we are not always going to be nice. We’re not always going to be happy and we’re not always going to be healthy and loving. We’re going to roll our eyes. We’re going to grimace. We’re going to eat donuts even after reading articles about how gluten causes cancer. We’re going to do it and we need to do it guilt-free. The moment guilt is introduced, the worse we become. The more critical and cyclical our thoughts become. And that’s just not healthy.
In the end, the best thing for our health and happiness is to make conscious decisions to live guilt-free. Allow yourself to be angry, but don’t hate yourself because of it. It’s cool. It’s normal. It’s life.
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
– Mark Manson
This post was inspired by The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. This is an affiliate link, meaning I will be compensated for your purchase. There is no obligation!
