Most guys who are still single, are single because it is difficult to know what we truly want. We don’t know what we truly want for ourselves or what we want in a woman. The thing which solves this problem is somewhat elusive, but not really because here it is: decisiveness and Security.
You start with deciding what you will do with yourself to make your presence valuable. I decided on making a videogame. Not only that, I decided to make it the best and most beautiful thing I can possibly make. This manner of practice in decision making in congruency with thinking about love and relationships has magically given me the ability to know what I want in a woman. Fantastic, isn’t it? It’s not exactly magical. I know how it all went down, but I think I’m going to keep this one a mystery. You don’t have to know mine. When you figure out yourself, the chemistry that will allow you to see into the woman you truly desire will be your own concoction.
Decisiveness gives you security. When you can weigh out your options and choose the best one even if you don’t have good options, that’s still a Push towards security. The worse your options are, the harder you push for better options.
Here’s the funny part. Human nature. When you have all the options in the world, you will not need to push for better options, although the lack of the push is what kills us. Imagine if I were married and am sitting on a billion dollars. If I merely used this money as an option generator and stopped using my brain and passion to deliver anything at all, my wife is going to leave with half and find something more worthwhile to do. It’s so funny isn’t it? All this status seeking behavior, and the only thing that really keeps us together is the power within ourselves that earns us the status to begin with. It’s YOU, and your strength to decide on what tomorrow will be like with what you have. No matter how much money you have, the outlook of tomorrow is not given to you and it isn’t bought. The outlook of tomorrow is what you provide.
The only reason why I’m still single is because I am very late to the party. I had no resources to share and my direction wasn’t established. My art didn’t focus in on where it needed to go. Well now that we’re almost here, I think about love and relationships a lot. I consider where I’m at fault before it happens and while it happens. That’s why I believe that I can live out a Fairy Tale with someone, because most of the time it’s not that difficult to admit to failures and get on with it proper. The fairy tale just means that you’re giving it your best shot to have fun even in tough times. Ironically, to earn the fairy tale, you have to be decisive and calculating within times of uncertainty. That’s what empowers the security that is necessary for safety, even if it’s only something to believe in while the world crumbles. If you make a girl feel safe even when you can’t see through the rain, that’s a part of the story.
The most decisive thing I have ever done to date is let Epic Games know what the next 8 years of my life is going to look like. I didn’t tell them that it was going to go down exactly as stated on the timeline, although I plotted out the options so that I could play with them over time to achieve what we are set out to do. After that time is up, I will probably plot out the remainder of my years with the options generated from my fruits of labor so that whoever is with me will be safe while still having the same kind of fun which brought us together. My brain is always on and my passion is forever, a clash of pragmatism and ethereal wildfire.
