"Handle them carefully, for words, have more power than atom bombs"
Like the way you talk to yourself, you gotta be aware of how you talk to others.
Its funny how something said in a certain way can totally change a person's perception of it. For example, I can ask you "do you know where my laptop is" or I can say "what did you do with my laptop?"
Two different statements pretty much asking the same question can change a person's response immediately. It may sound hard to do, changing the way you talk, but all you really gotta understand and ask yourself is "how is this message going to be conveyed".
While you do need to watch what you say, realizing HOW your saying it is also important.
Some people, especially young children, can be really annoying to teach. Sometimes you spend hours teaching a child how to use the toilet and they continue to shit their pants. You'll want to yell and beat something because of the impatience, but that wouldn't help the kid.
Showing how upset or angry you are at someone's actions, especially young children, all of the time can lead them to feeling like they can't do anything right, that their always gonna mess something up, or that they can't be successful at anything.
These aren't exaggerations. These are the long term consequences of a person who's treated badly. When you were a child, did you learn better when you were screamed at or when you were told that you did a kickass job?
Give credit where credit is due. That person may have failed but they tried to do something they didn't know how to do, and that is something most people WON'T do.
Encourage, don't discourage, people to Keep Moving Forward, to continue attempting to succeed even when they have failed over and over again. If you want to yell and blow off steam, do it elsewhere, at a different time and place.
As you continue to learn how to talk to yourself, remember to regard the same level of respect to others, cause words can have serious consequences.
-Andres
QoD: Are you pushing others to Move Forward in their lives or are you discouraging them with criticism?
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- Pearl Strachan
Like the way you talk to yourself, you gotta be aware of how you talk to others.
Its funny how something said in a certain way can totally change a person's perception of it. For example, I can ask you "do you know where my laptop is" or I can say "what did you do with my laptop?"
Two different statements pretty much asking the same question can change a person's response immediately. It may sound hard to do, changing the way you talk, but all you really gotta understand and ask yourself is "how is this message going to be conveyed".
While you do need to watch what you say, realizing HOW your saying it is also important.
Some people, especially young children, can be really annoying to teach. Sometimes you spend hours teaching a child how to use the toilet and they continue to shit their pants. You'll want to yell and beat something because of the impatience, but that wouldn't help the kid.
Showing how upset or angry you are at someone's actions, especially young children, all of the time can lead them to feeling like they can't do anything right, that their always gonna mess something up, or that they can't be successful at anything.
These aren't exaggerations. These are the long term consequences of a person who's treated badly. When you were a child, did you learn better when you were screamed at or when you were told that you did a kickass job?
Give credit where credit is due. That person may have failed but they tried to do something they didn't know how to do, and that is something most people WON'T do.
Encourage, don't discourage, people to Keep Moving Forward, to continue attempting to succeed even when they have failed over and over again. If you want to yell and blow off steam, do it elsewhere, at a different time and place.
As you continue to learn how to talk to yourself, remember to regard the same level of respect to others, cause words can have serious consequences.
-Andres
QoD: Are you pushing others to Move Forward in their lives or are you discouraging them with criticism?
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