Conflict is not exactly something we enjoy … UNLESS of course, you have a psychological addiction to creating drama (see drama queens). In which case you may want to seek therapeutic intervention. No, in general, most of us seek a conflict-free life in which we are liked and accepted by those around us. Very few people like being disliked (unless you are some kind of anarchic masochist). Most people want to fit in, be validated, agreed with, and approved by others … which is all very normal. But what happens when this desire to avoid Conflict becomes pathological? The answer is that we become people-pleasers; sacrificing our authenticity to fit into a cookie cutter mold that is given the tick of approval by others. Not only that but when avoiding conflict becomes pathological we may even start to adopt a “good vibes only” approach to life. Let’s face it: on the surface, this appears kind of cute and has a faux-spiritual-new-age ring to it. […] More

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