One of the primary doctrines sold to humanity by just about all the new age teachers, is an idea they call “unconditional love” or “unconditional forgiveness”.
The general idea is that unless we as human individuals and as a collective, attain to this ideal of “unconditional love” in our day to day life situations, we will be “struck” in 3D, unable to reach the “heavenly realms” of 5D via a process called “ascension”.
This is utter nonsense, and in this post I aim to explain why I reject this poisonous doctrine.
Here is a scenario:
Jane is in an abusive relationship with Jim, a psychopath that torments her physically and emotionally. Year in and year out Jim promises that he will stop the abuse, but he never does.
Should Jane abandon her relationship with Jim?
I say a resounding yes, definitely. The teaching of unconditional love has to say no.
Let me explain why the new agers have it very wrong, and why this is such a poisonous doctrine.
The ultimate goal of this universe is to integrate opposites. The ultimate goal of humans is to figure out how to do this. We all probably agree on this, to some degree, but the question is this:
How is the integration archived?
Since the universe is a binary fractal (see my 3 Awakening posts), which operates like a sine wave (which implies time), we have to look at the operations of the sine wave, to understand our relationships and the experiences within our relationships.
In the illustration above we see 5 key points in the relationship between a perpetrator of a
Crime and the victim of a crime. (Since we are dealing with a relationship, both parties find their
relationship at these various points.)
a. The start of the relationship
b. A crime is committed in the relationship, i.e. abuse
c. The crime has ceased, if possible, fair compensation has taken place
d. Forgiveness have taken place within both parties (the perpetrator has forgiven him/herself, the victim has forgiven the perpetrator).
e. Final integration, balance within the relationship is achieved, and both parties have grown through the experience.
This is how all
Crimes should be handled, no matter what they are: major crimes; petty crimes; crimes against many people; crimes against an individual, doesn’t matter.
The problem with “unconditional love” is it keeps us stuck at point b, because it does not insist that point c has to take place, and even worse, it pretends that the way forward is not point c, but point d.
In English, unconditional love does not apply the condition that a crime has to stop before forgiveness can take place. It claims that integration can take place solely via the act of forgiveness.
What happens in effect, is a perfect abuse scenario for the perpetrator of the crime, because the teaching of unconditional love allows the perpetrator to continue with the crime. And because of this, the victim cannot, and will not find closure. The victim may pretend to have found closure, but this would be denial and self-deception, which happens way more in our society than it should!
So I hope I made it clear that I am not advocating “keeping grudges”. That would happen if the relationship got stuck at point c. What I am advocating is that the action of harm against an individual or a collective has to stop first, then the process of restoration can begin through the divine act of forgiveness.
There cannot be such a thing as unconditional love. Love implies that the relationship between two or many people, operates out of mutual respect and co-operation. If this mutual respect and co-operation is violated via harm done, it has to be restored again:
- the crime has to stop and if possible, fair compensation has to occur
- forgiveness on all sides has to happen.
These are very clear conditions, a framework if you will, within which Love can flourish. Any suggestion to the contrary will lead humanity into slavery of the worst kind!
