“I’m blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women’s Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda in association with Set Wet.”

Dear future husband,

Hi,

Someday I am going to be your wife. We are going to make vows to each other at the altar. We are going to spend our lives together. We have met before. As of today, we have been together for more than 4 years (4 years, 6 months, 1 day to be precise). I don’t know whether you are reading this or not but I felt something inside me and thought of writing this to you.

You have known me for a long time now. We have seen each others good side and bad side. We have seen each other laugh and cry. I know you must have already thought and prepared some special vows to be said on our special day.

But I want you to make some more promises. Some special promises.

1) I love you a lot. You are my world. But I want you to remember that our lives go beyond each other. We have our careers, our jobs, our future kids, our parents, our friends, etc. I want you to promise me to not get upset on me and respect my choice if sometimes I am not able to give you priority. I want you to accept that it is for good reason.

2) I may get fat, I may get out of shape, and I may start looking bad and ugly. No matter what, I want you to promise me that you will not get all judgmental about my body and looks. I want you to promise me that you will make me feel beautiful no matter how I look. I don’t want you to buy me gifts or any special treats. All I want you to do is just say the words, “You look wonderful/beautiful/lovely/pretty.”

3) I will love your family and accept them with open arms, and I expect nothing less from you. Your family is now a huge part of my life, and I will care for them the way you would. All I ask of you is to promise me to feel the same sense of responsibility and belonging towards my family.

4) Sometimes, I may get mad at you. There may be fights between us. But I want you to promise me that, no matter how big the fight is, we will try our best to get rid of it before going to bed. If I am mad at you, don’t let me go to bed angry. Instead hug me tight and kiss me, and I am sure my anger will melt away. You need to know that you have every right to correct me when I’m wrong, as will I when I sense a problem.

5) There will be problems between us. Sometimes our friends or someone else may try to fill our ears which may create a sense of doubt in our minds. I promise to never let a rumor or some gossip affect our relationship and in turn I want you to promise me the same.

6) We both will be working. We both will be living in the same house. And hence I want you to promise me to share all the household responsibilities too. Both of us will have as much say in matters related to cooking, cleaning, and so on.

7) I enjoy sex just as much as you do. But when I don't want it, I want you to respect my space, as I would respect yours.

8) We made vows to each other at the altar to be with each other in good and bad times, in sickness and health, in richness and in poverty, and to love and honor each other till death parts us. Don’t let this remain just words. I will promise to fulfill my vows and in turn I ask you to do the same. I may get sick, sometimes throw up, please take care of me, and I will take care of you when you get sick.

9) You are free to express yourself, be sad, cry, or be romantic. But you will not be violent with me under any circumstances. I love you but if things get out of hand, I’ll not hesitate to let the law intervene.

10) I may not be the perfect cook like you. So if sometimes the salt is too less or too much, please don’t get judgmental and rude. Instead tell me what’s wrong lovingly. I promise, I’ll try my best to improve. And sometimes, please plan little special surprise home dates for me too.

11) If, someday, you fall out of love with me or are rethinking our relationship, be honest with me. Don’t cheat on me because that will break me into pieces.

Never hesitate to share your problems, bad experiences, memories, or sad news with me. No matter how big or small it may be, we will try and solve it together.

Remember, you are my best friend. And there’s no one else I can imagine spending the rest of my life with. I hope our love, friendship, and togetherness stays this way forever.





- Your Loving Future Wife.