Previously I had written a blog post about the right age to get married.
In this post I will be helping you to choose the right life partner.
In this post I will be helping you to choose the right life partner.
Choosing the right one is not an easy task. Finding a perfect life partner is not a walk in a park. It is not like finding a person to spend time with just because you are bored by yourself and then not even bothered about that person when your work is done.
Finding a life partner means finding a person you can see yourself growing old with.
A life partner is someone with whom you will be spending almost 40-50 years. Hence you need to make the right and proper choice.
Choosing the person you want to marry or commit to forever is serious business, and it demands a lot of forethought, responsibility, and honesty. But once you've found that special person, all of your hard work will be worth it and you can get ready for a lifetime of happiness.
You should not select or reject any person by his outer looks. Before selecting a person you should get to know him/ her in all possible ways.
Sometimes few people marry someone just because he/she is popular or rich or good looking. They don't bother to check or find out the low points. They realize their mistakes after few months of marriage and when they are not able to adjust to their partners behavior they end up divorcing them.
You should not select or reject any person by his outer looks. Before selecting a person you should get to know him/ her in all possible ways.
Sometimes few people marry someone just because he/she is popular or rich or good looking. They don't bother to check or find out the low points. They realize their mistakes after few months of marriage and when they are not able to adjust to their partners behavior they end up divorcing them.
Before starting the search for the Right one you need to see to this that you are ready for this big step. You need to be happy with whatever you have achieved. You need to have matured and grown enough to be able to carry the new responsibilities. You need to be financially stable and independent. You need to believe in yourself and be confident.
Next when you start a search for a life partner don't keep very high expectations. You can register yourself at various matrimony or dating sites or get in touch with any match makers or ask your friends or relatives to help you find a life partner. If you are already dating someone find out if that person is a marriage material (responsible and supportive and not someone who will turn out to be a liability to make your life miserable. Your life partner must be someone who is willing to share the amazing adventure of life with you.
Don't judge people by their looks when you receive marriage requests. Before getting to any final decision get to know the person nicely. Some people may not have good looks but they have a golden heart. Some people are extremely good looking but they turn out to be very selfish and rude.
Acceptance is the most important thing. You can’t change another person and you have absolutely no right to try to change your spouse. At the same time don’t promise to change if your potential partner can’t accept you as you are.
If you’ve found someone who’s completely open and straightforward with you, you’ve found the one. In today’s world, some people would become someone else just to impress you for a few days and then show you their true colors rather than show you who they really are and make you love their real selves. People who speak their minds, people who say how they feel, people who aren’t afraid of the truth no matter how much it hurts, these are the kind of people who are reliable and will stay with you through thick and thin.
In today’s world, people would rather tell you they’re busy than happily spend time with you. Find someone who’s generous with time, not someone who makes you wait and doesn’t respect your time. Time is one of the most precious gifts you can give someone, it’s priceless. If you are a laid-back person and your partner is an over-achiever, that could lead to a threat in your marriage. You must see eye to eye on how both of you are able to think and process things.
People who can laugh at themselves are the most easy going people around and they make for the best partners. You can’t be with someone who’s too sensitive, because you may unintentionally hurt them someday. Find someone with a good sense of humor, someone who doesn’t take every little thing too seriously. Someone who doesn’t let every little joke get to them.
Truly compassionate people are the best, people who listen to you and try their best to empathize with you. There’s an abundance of insensitive people in the world, people who think emotions are a waste of time, trust me, I know a few. Your life partner should be able to understand your sorrows and feel your pain, your life partner should be someone who always tries putting your shoes on just to see what it feels like in them. He/she should respect you and your decisions. Be there for you through every problem and support even the wackiest of ideas.
It’s not enough to be nice to you, but to others too. And anybody who treats the waiter, watchman, driver and the rest will love is a keeper. That really reflects your upbringing and culture. It doesn’t matter if he/she is rich or not, what’s more important is that he/she should be hardworking, dedicated and true to his work. That’s what will tell you if he/she will stay loyal and true to you for life. Somebody who is not dedicated to his craft and slacks off is not worth your time and energy. But that doesn’t mean that you marry a workaholic who has no time for family and social obligations.
Many people have extensive lists of what qualities and traits their ideal partner has to have. If you box yourself in to a checklist you may miss out on some great matches for you. It's almost impossible to find a perfect checklist partner, and when we think we have found it we throw all caution to the wind and disregard some not so desirable qualities. A great relationship has emotional compatibility.
Picking a partner where you feel like you can be 100 percent yourself with no judgment and complete acceptance is a wonderful and liberating feeling. In life it can be difficult to find venues where you can truly be yourself. A relationship should be your safe and comfortable place where you don't have to keep a mask on.
Don't spend your whole life focusing on finding your lifetime partner. Live your life while you can! You only have one lifetime, and you don't want to waste it by focusing solely on finding a partner. Don't try too hard! Wanting different levels of intimacy could be a deal breaker. Ask these questions before marrying someone.
Sometimes life does things for a reason, and it may bring your partner into your life unexpectedly and for no apparent reason. The right one is not far away. You will find him/her no matter what. Just believe.
