Why should the best man have all the fun? Anticipation and excitement for the stories and the jokes! As maid of honour, why not break the rules and swerve from tradition with a speech that will prompt both eager eyes and ears alike! We’ve come up with a few pointers to produce an entertaining and memorable speech which will bag you some serious best friend points!
Introduce yourselfStart by introducing yourself – ok, so I’m sure your gorgeous bridesmaid gown will give you away slightly, but you may not be known by everyone in the room. It’s good to establish who exactly you are whether you opt for ‘maid of honour’ ‘head bridesmaid’ or simple ‘best friend’. Be sure to get your name in there too, so everyone know who delivered the cracker of a speech!
The bride is your focusObviously your purpose is to talk about the Bride – your best friend and partner in crime. Address her and compliment her. Now is your chance to speak from the heart in front of all the people closest to her – great way to show she means as much to you as she does to the Groom!
Avoid repetitionYou may be following or preceding speeches by male members of the wedding party – the best man and the father of the bride. Remember that their focus too is the bride (all about making her feel extra special!) so you will want to avoid repeating or reiterating their words or ideas. The best way to assure you don’t do this is to speak to them – tell them the compliments you wish to pay and the jist of a story you want to go through – they will then be able to tell you if they have covered anything too similar.
Speak of your friendship and her relationshipShare cute stories about you as friends – before the groom and maybe later include one in which he was a part of. This is a great section to get humour involved (best man shouldn’t get all the laughs!). You may want to talk about the couple getting together from your perspective. How did she act when going through the texting phase? What was she like when she returned from their first date? It will show just how smitten she was for the groom! Talk about how their love has grown and especially how you love to be around them, witnessing such a love story develop. Finally, say how you have gained another friend because of their re-union – the groom!
Keep it togetherAlthough this is bound to be an emotional few minutes, try and keep it together. You’ll want to avoid being a snivelling wreck – that means holding back the tears. The natural passion will come across in your voice – and let’s face it witnessing someone overcome with love and reduced to tears is just, well, awkward!
Practice and be a ‘pro’!Making a speech means you are an integral part of the big day. And you owe it to the bride and her groom to make it as clear and concise as possible. Of course it’s personal but you are part of the entertainment – providing a service to the guests and the happy couple! Practice really does make perfect, so get out your microphone hairbrush and stick yourself in front of the mirror for a few hours!