When was the last time you saw a couple celebrating their 50^th anniversary.  Such miracles happen only once in a while, and for most part, with the help of divine intervention. Life experience There must be a lot of things that these couples have seen together. They must have faced all the fights together sticking to each other.

If you want success in Marriage, you have to be a good mate, it’s not just about being with the right mate. Often marriages need the trajectory of energy and time, which both of you need to spend. You have to build the marriage, step by step, block by block. You have to work on it every day.

Here are a few steps to make your marriage even stronger:

Respect

A lot of people say that they loved each other but it didn’t work out. Everyone fights. Remember, no one is perfect. Respect is where everyone lacks the most. Every couple needs to be respected. When we fight, we lose our ability to think peacefully. That is where we need to be calm and respect our partners. Women generally needs more love and respect, when they feel unloved they generally treat the guy with disrespect and this is where begins conflict in the couple.

Time

The one thing that requires a relationship to work is time. It will never work without time investment. It has never worked without time and it will never work without time. Quality time cannot happen without quantity time. If you give your 100 percent to something, it might give you something back. But if you are willing to invest only 50, you have to think twice. And for that matter, nothing will work without investing the time needed to make your marriage healthy

Communicate

Try to communicate as much as possible with honesty and respect. Some silliness is certainly welcomed but important matters should be tackled with seriousness. Feel free to discuss things that bother you, or things you love, or things you want to do more together. Share the 5 love languages from Chapman where each can express how to communicate with each other in a more elaborate way. Everyone has a different love language and it is crucial that you understand the one of your mate. Talk to each other about family members, show them that you care and concerned about everyone’s involved. Talk on a daily basis. Text them about how their day is going and what you can do for them to make their day better, especially if they are not feeling well or stressed about their workday.. Marriage is based on communication.

Romance

Well, things don’t seem the same after some five or six years of togetherness. The smile which made you crazy doesn’t seem to have the same impact as it did originally, or during that honeymoon stage of the relationship/marriage. That is just due to you seeing them every day, from the wake time to after coming back form work. This is when it is time to create a new connection with your significant other and reignite the passion you have lost through the years being together. As you grow older, many grow apart if they do not find ways to reconnect spiritually, emotionally and physically. Never forgo that special time with your special someone and you may lose them through the time and space continuum.

Accept them as they are 

You will always be a different person with a different mind-set no matter how connected you feel or how much you share with your significant other.  Everyone should keep their individuality and of course, be able to express themselves, no matter how much you like it or hate it. You will argue at times, which is crucial for the health of your marriage, but it all depends on how you argue. Being clear with what want and need and never assume the other should read your mind is a good start. If they are messy and you are a clean freak, this is a side of them you knew prior to going into the marriage so it shouldn’t bother you now. You can’t change who they are and you should accept them for what they are. Learn to love that person with all their good and bad and once you master that, you will certainly see a great change in your relationship. Keep your expectations low and whatever the outcome, you will certainly always be surprised, in the good way, by their actions.