“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” – Oprah Winfrey.

Before you step into the dating world again, it is imperative that you get rid of any Baggage. Nobody wants to date someone who has any past baggage hanging around them. I am aware that this is easier said than done, letting go is a painful but very rewarding experience that will set you free.

The first step to recovery is the toughest, it is important that you realize the situation and accept the pain. As harsh as it may seem, you must accept the fact that IT IS OVER and that just cannot to look back anymore, move forwards my friend.

The second step to the cure is that you must cut of all contact, for a while at least. It just sucks to have to talk to the person that your heart aches for. That still won’t help if you are still constantly thinking about the person, therefore you need to take up a task that will keep your mind Busy. So, find a task that prove worthy of your time, something that will improve you; maybe learn a new skill like playing the guitar or get back into an old hobby that you used to adore. Once you have realized that you have are starting to let go slowly, prepare to Love yourself again. Our egos take a massive hit after a break up which leaves us feeling exhausted so allow yourself to have some fun and bring back your confidence. Last summer I went through my first and very real break up. It really sucked, I thought I was going to die! After a month of moping around the house in my jammies all day and lounging in front of the TV, I realized that I was a mess and that I needed to break free. I spent the next few months getting back to the gym and playing soccer. One year later, I am healthier than I have ever been, looking better than ever and fascinatingly, with the woman of my dreams.

As soon as you realize that you are ready to find love again, you need to prepare yourself to meet someone new. A year ago, I had lost all hope in love, but I had kept myself busy with my postgraduate studies and extracurricular activities. I was so busy that I could barely find the time to socialize so after hearing about a ton of success stories, I stepped into the world of online dating. This is how I met my queen.

Your soul-searching adventure starts now, be prepared to acquire a band of admirers and friends that are looking for the same thing as you! And who knows, one of them might be that all elusive soulmate .

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Article written by Don Sahan, a contributing author for Lightning Speed Dating blog.