“Well you only need the light when it’s burning low
Only miss the sun when it starts to snow
Only know you love her when you let her go
Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low
Only hate the road when you’re missing home
Only know you love her when you let her go
And you let her go”

• Ed Sheeran (English singer, songwriter).

Heartbreaks are unfortunately a norm in modern society. This is something that just happens, heartbreaks exist so that you learn the power of forgiveness, Letting go and accepting the way things are. We have all gone through bad breakups, even the strongest of us will have a sad Love story to tell you. The most important part of letting go is accepting and forgiving. It is what it is, so accept the things that you cannot change and most importantly, forgive, otherwise you will never let go. Move forward without any bitterness or regrets, and no looking back!

All forms of mental distress and emotional desolation that comes post-breakup is expected and you must equip yourself with the right tools to survive. Take up a practice that will clear your head, something like yoga or meditation that will bring you in the present moment and slow things down for you.

And cry if you need to! No one will judge you or laugh at you. Crying has been scientifically proven to release harmful, negative chemicals that build up in your body due to stress. So, don’t be afraid to snuggle in bed and have a good cry. Go on, let it all out.

After any break up, we give ourselves an optional period of isolation from the outside world. Take as much time as you need but not too much time! Gather yourself and head back out there and talk to people, meet and talk to as many people as you can. Conversations and enjoying great company will give you a rekindled sense of happiness and relief. It’s not the end of the world, get back on that surfboard my friend, there are plenty of waves to catch. The process of letting go is a bit like surfing, you must let go of the fear that is holding you back and stand firm in the face of the onrushing waves. The outcome will engulf you in an aura of invincibility and confidence.

When you go through a break up, it is normal to think that the person was the love of your life. When I went through my first real break up I thought that I could not love anybody else the way I loved her. But, one year later I met the woman of my dreams on a matchmaking website and this time it’s different, because you just know that you are soulmates. The truth is that if you allow yourself, no matter how much times it takes, you will find someone that will teach you how to love again; through levels of passion and intensity that you have never felt before. That is the Beauty of letting go, it makes you stronger and prepares you for a long and beautiful road to soul searching.

A reputable and successful dating service such as ‘Lightning Speed Matchmaker’ can help you meet people with similar interests and lifestyles. Give love a chance to work its magic! You can visit their website at http://matchmaker.lightningspeeddating.com for more information about their membership plans, and so much more.

Article written by Don Sahan. A contributing author for Lightning Speed Dating blog.

References:

Important tips. Ilene Strauss Cohen. Psychology Today.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-emotional-meter/201708/important-tips-how-let-go-and-free-yourself

40 ways to let go and feel less pain. Lori Deschene. Tiny Buddha.

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/

70 inspirational quotes. Lorenzo Jensen III. Thought Catalog.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/lorenzo-jensen-iii/2015/07/70-inspirational-quotes-about-letting-go-and-moving-on/