Girls and boys alike, Commitment Issues are generally present in our younger days. But serious commitment issues may cripple some till we grow old, alone in a house filled with cats. Crazy cat lady scenarios or not, commitment issues will have you stressing out over simple relationship elements such as receiving a sweet, caring text from your date will have you leaving on the next flight to Siberia.

There are several types of commitment issues that you may go through depending on the stage of life that you are currently in. During your younger days, the need to feel free will be a natural and essential part of growing up. I had my two first real relationships first in high school and then the second in college. In both relationships, I realized that I was subconsciously and consistently looking for the opportunity to break free. I was a young and daring teenager that was in his prime age of discovery and freedom. Both relationships predictably ended in the dumps and instead of feeling overly sad or hurt, I felt relieved. This is the first real sign of any commitment issues as you are more relieved to be free instead of hurting over a failed romance. At this point in time, you simply cannot be tied down. Even well into my late 20’s and early 30’s I found myself floating towards unavailable partners, a partner who is not available emotionally or is just not ready yet. Maybe I was addicted to the drama of knowing that there is no potential for something real and that I won’t need to commit. I have also had several short but passionate and intense relationships. These types of relationships are satisfactory for the time being but also do not have any long-term potential, so it will put our commitment issues at ease.

As I matured, I realized that a lot of these commitment issues arise after going through one or more failed romances. It is okay to lose faith in love for a bit, thus becoming more guarded and independent because just like it happened to me, one day the right person will walk into your life and re-ignite your fire.

The right person for YOU might be right around the corner, so when you are ready, let love take you on a fascinating and soul satisfying journey. I recommend you use a reputable and successful dating service such as ‘Lightning Speed Matchmaker’ that can help you meet people with similar interests and lifestyles. Give love a chance to work its magic! You can visit their website at http://matchmaker.lightningspeeddating.com for more information about their membership plans, and so much more.

Article written by Don Sahan. A contributing author for Lightning speed dating blog.

References:

12 obvious signs… Lianne Choo. LovePanky. http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/naughty-affairs/12-obvious-signs-you-have-big-commitment-issues