“A firm, hearty, handshake gives a good first impression, and you’ll never be forgiven if you don’t live up to it.” – Patrick Jake O’Rourke, Journalist and iconic American writer.

Yes, first impressions are important. These are the moments that are most lasting and one where you need to show your true self because it is that same one that your partner will choose to be with for the rest of her life. This might mean rejection, but you must keep going to find the right match for you. Have some patience and watch out for some remarkable outcomes.

If you think you portrayed the most ‘real’ version of yourself on a date, the risk of increasing rejection will vastly increase. This is because, unfortunate as it is, some of us will simply not tolerate certain personalities that we are not attracted to. BUT, stand firm because others will love how different and alluring you are. Do not try to be different to what you think are the norms, because sometimes even the most average can take your breath away. Be Authentic and original in the way you were designed to be.

Once upon a time, I went on a first date with a friend I barely knew. I had reserved a table at this expensive sushi restaurant in downtown Chicago. I met her at the entrance wearing skinny jeans, cons and a sharp looking blazer. She wore something much, much less formal casual. A ‘Lolita’ type dress with shorts. It is considered to be a very common trait in many American teens and young adults that adore the Japanese culture. So anyway, we were a total mismatch right away, but we still had a fun time drinking and conversing over great cocktails and sushi. We remain good friends till this day; so, each time you get rejected for showing your true self, you will still come out with an adventure with the possibility of making a new friend!

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A few months later I met a woman through a similar dating service online and we hit it off with each other immediately. We managed to stay away from our phones and give each other our complete and undivided attention. Time is precious, and it is an honor if a date is willing to spend some of that time on having a conversation with you. If you get through the first date by being kind, modest and respectful towards each other, then give it a chance. Maybe a second or third date may be an appealing option for both of you. Maybe you have earned yourself a relationship with someone that will respect you and have fun in your company.

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Article written by Don Sahan, a contributing author of Lightning Speed Dating blog.