Marriage is not always sunshine and bliss- you do experience the edges and a multitude of hardships in the journey of your married life. When you are nocked with your mood swings, you tend to say things you don’t necessarily mean and may come out rather harsh. No matter how unhappy you are with him, you should always think twice before resulting to say it. If you really do think it’s necessary feel free to spill the beans, but if it’s not, keep it within your constraints! Here, we are sharing list of things which you should never say to your Partner to ensure a swift pathway to your married life.

I can’t live with you: When fights spark, this is one of the most common things partners will immediately say. Generally, you make statements like, “it is really difficult to live with you” or “I can’t live with you anymore” or “I want to go back to my parents’ home”. All these statements will result in him thinking you actually mean it and will cause a friction in the Relationship- it will cause your partner to think twice about your relationship with him- which will in return, give him a negative feeling about himself causing a negative altruism for both parties.

I don’t believe you: Trust is a very important factor in relationship. If you suspect your partner or you think that he is untruthful, saying this can affect your relationship and worsen the whole situation.  If you have trouble with your husband’s habits, then it is better to discuss this, rather than making a fuss over it. Some words actually have a larger impact than others. Focus more on asking questions to clear your confusion, rather than making such bold statements. Such statements may backfire and chop your relationship.

You are overreacting: This is one statement which may annoy your partner. When you are not happy with the reaction of your partner, you tend to make statements like you are overreacting, but instead of saying things like “you are overreacting”, or “you are too sensitive”, or “you are too emotional” or “don’t be so defensive”, it is better you try to resolve the issue. Instead of telling him how to react, find ways to ease his tension and worries. Even if you are not able to resolve the issue, listen to his thoughts calmly.

I am not your maid: Such kind of statements will give him a sense that you are doing this out of compulsion, rather than the wellbeing of both individuals.

Are you that stupid?: Making statements like, “are you that stupid?”, “that’s an awful idea”, “how could you be so dumb?”, all such statements are very hurtful for your partner. He may be doing something which sparks his arrogance and ignorance however, supporting your partner is very important for a healthy relationship. Unsupportive statements can harm your relationship with your partner.

Article written by: Dennis Jose, a contributing author for Lightning Speed Dating Blog.

Edited by: Sandra Leow.