How many of you are striving to Achieve the balance in your life you have always desired for? But have you ever thought deeply how to achieve it? I am sure you all desire for that perfect body, the ideal relationship, a great vacation and a huge bank balance. We read so many stories each day of people becoming successful and envy them (admit it!) and keep wondering how do these people make it? Is it money? Is it sacrifice or just luck? One common thing is that they find happiness in what they do! Are you happy with what you do? If not, then why? What is stopping you?
Sit back and ponder, what will give me happiness? Great job, a big salary or something else. As a matter of fact we are looking for happiness to come to us rather than making it come from within. Yes success is important, but who defines it for you? Only you.
Having seen this syndrome in a lot of people and undergoing a few trainings, I came across one model that suited my ideology of success. In order to search happiness within, you should be able to enjoy everything that truly means to you.
The question is how to identify what is truly important for me? Let me clarify this with a small exercise.
An average human being would broadly classify his life into 8 areas-
- Health
- Finance
- Relationships
- Fun & Adventure
- Self Up gradation
- Hobbies
- Social
- Spirituality
Get a pen and a paper and make a Chart for yourself resembling the picture
Now go back 5 years in time and think how you were performing in all these areas. Give scores to yourself out of 10. The center of the circle is 0 and end of each spoke 10. Now make an arch in each section depending on your scores.
Your chart should look something like this-
Now do this exercise again for your present. Shade the region you have marked to look like this-(Excuse me for poor drawing skills :D)
The shaded region is your “wheel of life”. Bumpy, isn’t it?
In order to achieve inner happiness, you should spend time in each of these areas. Set goals for your health. Take target to lose those pounds. Set a goal to earn or save X amount in a year. Think of a place you would want to take a vacation to with your loved ones to nurture relationships. Let that adventurist come out at least for sometime during the year. Learn. It may be as simple as learning to cook a new dish or reading or to play an instrument. Do something for the society. And last but not the least spend some time for building that connection with the Almighty. Phew!! It may sound like a lot of work right now but there is nothing better than seeing yourself achieve goals that you have set! You never know what might click during the course and enlightens you.
Make a nice pictorial chart and put it in a place you see it every day. It would trigger something in you. And even if you don’t achieve them, you would still be happy that somewhere you were conscious in finding what really matters to you! Don’t just sit back and wait for miracles to happen. Believe in action. Remember; only you have the remote control of your happiness, don’t let life control it. You own this life so take charge!
Questions?? Please mention in comments.
Love.
