It is very fascinating how we force forgetting someone, how we make ourselves believe that things change. We force ourselves to make people who used to be everything into nothing again. One thing for sure we learn—pain is a better teacher than the happiness. The aftermath teaches you what the relationship itself does not.
Nevertheless, does it really mean that you made the person you loved a stranger again? You see, you never really stop thinking about them or knowing them in that way. True that you have no choice other than to make them someone different in your mind, but the person whom you know remains the same. Even that person knew your mood, anxieties, how you looked naked or when you cry or shout and how much you loved them.
No matter how much you tried, the memories that are imprinted on the places you went, the food you ate, songs you listened, things you said, and all those bits of memories linger. They will not go, never. Those songs will always make you realize that you are still revolving around them and may be you never stopped revolving around them. Do you ever forget your lover’s birthday, your first times, anything? No! Do the anniversaries ever become like normal days? No!
Now that you have broken out, do you decidedly ignore them, as they are now nothing to you or you have no other choice? There is always a continuous battle between your mind and the heart. The mind tells NO and the heart tells to GO ON. Either you love someone, in some way, forever, or you never really loved him or her at all. One thing is sure, you come to know more about love and what it can do; the pain and emptiness love brings. However, I am not sure whether anybody else can match the void of someone who was so deeply impressed in you.
The sweetest wine can turn into the sharpest vinegar. It is better to force yourself to be stranger for a person you loved the most. Emotions hurt and being stranger is better than being jealous and emotionally distraught by knowing what is happening in his/her ex's life. At least it is true in my case.
I am not here to write about what happens after a breakup or separation neither about what we revolve after they are gone. I just want to tell you that things change and it is not in our hand. We all start as strangers, what we forget is that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger.
Nevertheless, does it really mean that you made the person you loved a stranger again? You see, you never really stop thinking about them or knowing them in that way. True that you have no choice other than to make them someone different in your mind, but the person whom you know remains the same. Even that person knew your mood, anxieties, how you looked naked or when you cry or shout and how much you loved them.
No matter how much you tried, the memories that are imprinted on the places you went, the food you ate, songs you listened, things you said, and all those bits of memories linger. They will not go, never. Those songs will always make you realize that you are still revolving around them and may be you never stopped revolving around them. Do you ever forget your lover’s birthday, your first times, anything? No! Do the anniversaries ever become like normal days? No!
Now that you have broken out, do you decidedly ignore them, as they are now nothing to you or you have no other choice? There is always a continuous battle between your mind and the heart. The mind tells NO and the heart tells to GO ON. Either you love someone, in some way, forever, or you never really loved him or her at all. One thing is sure, you come to know more about love and what it can do; the pain and emptiness love brings. However, I am not sure whether anybody else can match the void of someone who was so deeply impressed in you.
The sweetest wine can turn into the sharpest vinegar. It is better to force yourself to be stranger for a person you loved the most. Emotions hurt and being stranger is better than being jealous and emotionally distraught by knowing what is happening in his/her ex's life. At least it is true in my case.
I am not here to write about what happens after a breakup or separation neither about what we revolve after they are gone. I just want to tell you that things change and it is not in our hand. We all start as strangers, what we forget is that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger.
People change, unfortunately a way of life. Hard to accept sometimes, but I do believe people have different priorities—more important than your love, at least in my case. For the best, the only option you have left with is being strong and leaving the pieces on the floor and move on. You have no other choice, people who have left you are not coming back, it was their choice and preference. Even you have loved them deeply; it does not matter.
