A lot of men get stuck between the phase of meeting a girl and getting physical with her. They just walk up to a girl and start a conversation and have no idea how to progress. They’ll say generic things like “where do you work?” and “you’re so hot” and then walk away, wondering why nothing ever happens. The solution is a word called “kino”, short for “kinosthetic” and basically just means Touching her. Touching people can lower stress hormones in the body and gives you a warm, loving feeling. More importantly, it creates a personal connection between the two of you.

    Now before you go out and start grabbing every girl’s fun-bags you need to realize that this in an art form. You can’t just start feeling random body parts and expect something in return (although I suppose it IS possible). You need to start off moderately and work your way up. Start with a simple handshake or hug. One thing to keep in mind is that the awkwardness of touching her is completely up to you. If you feel awkward about touching her, it’ll show and she will start to wonder why you’re acting so weird. Her guards will go up. Touching her should be natural for you. You don’t even think about it. It just happens. And never… NEVER ask for permission or apologize unless you obviously crossed a line.

    So what exactly do you do? Honestly… anything. Start off with a handshake or a hug, or just touch her on the arm as you’re talking to her. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you’re touching her from the moment you meet her. If you start touching her after you’ve been talking for a while she will notice the change. Is she wearing an interesting ring or bracelet? take her hand and ask her about it. And whatever you do, do NOT look at where you are touching. This will draw attention to it. You don’t want that, you’re trying to be natural, remember? But the most important part is to let go. Don’t just stand there holding her hand or her arm, it gets awkward. If your hand is clinging on to her shoulder she is going to be like “wtf” so don’t do it (at least not when you first meet her).

    As she becomes used to you touching her you can slowly increase the intensity. This part takes a little bit of judgement on how much she is attracted to you. If you’re walking somewhere you can lead her by brushing your hand across the small of her back. You can start touching more intimate places like her face, neck and hips. An interesting method involving kino is the push-pull method. The push-pull method has two steps. Step one, you’re reeling her in by talking to her and touching her. You’re saying things she wants to hear and building attraction. Step two, you’re pushing her away (most often in a sarcastic or comical way). For example: you’re both getting a long great, you share the same hobby or have a few common interests. You throw your arm around her shoulder and jokingly say “I like you, we’re getting married! Wait… can you cook? no? What kind of wife are you?” then playfully push her away. She’ll probably try to convince you that she’d be a good wife and the push-pulling continues. Your goal is to make it seem as though you are fighting your attraction to her, while at the same time making her fight for your attraction.

    Kino is something that is most powerful at a party or club-type setting. It can also be a powerful tool to use when you run into a girl you’d like to meet on the street. Girls are not expecting guys to approach them as much on the street as, say… in a club, so they are not as open to being touched by a stranger. It should still be used in these situations but just tone it down a little until she is more comfortable with you.