How I went from anxious to excited, not good enough to more than enough, and hating my job to pursuing my dreams.
It’s not about what you have when you achieve your dreams, but who you became in order to achieve them.
If you are truly dedicated to achieving your dreams, becoming Invincible is a must. By becoming invincible, you become grounded and secure in who you are, where you’re headed, and why you’re headed there. When the inevitable storms rumble through you stand tall, because you built a solid and unshakeable foundation within yourself.
So, what must you gain?
1. Individuality
Step one? Stop comparing yourself to others.
You are not them.
They are not you.
That is your #1 asset.
Comparison will take you down before you even get into the ring. It’s work that’s done by the ego to keep you playing small. When you compare, you have already lost touch with who you truly are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going because you’re more interested in who someone else is, where they’ve been, and where they’re going.
Even more so, everyone is on their own unique path learning and growing at their own pace and in their own way. You are unique for a reason. Allow yourself to embrace your individuality and shine your light with furbish intensity. Inner light brings peace.
You have your own unique strengths, interests, and talents. Embrace them.
What do you do better than anyone else?
What makes you unique?
How can you let your light shine bright?
2. Abundant Mindset
Beautifully, our World is abundant in nature. Look at how many seeds are on a single strawberry, how many trees are in a forest, or how many drops of water are in the ocean.
Abundance is everywhere and will only continue to evolve.
Shift your perspective from a lack mindset of not having, being, or doing enough to an Abundant Mindset. In an abundant mindset you’ll see that there is always more than enough energy, money, clients, knowledge, and inner strength to go around.
In an abundant mindset, collaborating trumps competition, generosity trumps hoarding, and trust trumps suspicion because there will always be more and you always are more than enough.
You taking a slice of the pie does not diminish it, because there are always more pies coming fresh out of the oven. Live abundantly. The World is mysterious and infinite. Relish in the possibilities.
3. Empowering Stories
If you want to truly become invincible, begin tuning in to the stories you tell yourself.
Are they empowering you to go further or holding you back from reaching the next level?
You are the author of your life. You have the power to rewrite the negative stories you tell yourself into positive, empowering, and confident beliefs.
What stories run through your mind on a daily basis?
4. Nourishing Habits
Our thoughts create our actions which create our routines which create our habits.
Just like how ice cream is filled with empty calories, poor habits are filled with empty promises.
Become curious about your habits. Are they setting you up for success?
One of the most powerful habits you can construct is a solid morning routine. Waking up to nourish your mind, body, and soul through reading, exercising, meditation, etc. will fill you with much more nourishment than scrolling through social media the moment you wake up.
What habits do you exercise on a daily basis?
5. Radical Confidence
To become invincible, you must believe you are invincible.
Believe in yourself first and the world will follow. Don’t stress about being perfect, just go back to step #1 and embrace your individuality. Confidence is gained as you continue to step outside of your comfort zone and try new things.
Also note that confidence is not arrogance. Confidence is trusting your individuality to light the match and ignite your fire.
Keep going fearlessly in the direction of your dreams and your confidence will grow.
How confident are you in your capabilities?
6. Think Bigger
From birth, our minds become conditioned to what Visen Lakhiani, Founder of Mindvalley, calls Brules (‘bull shit rules’). What type of Brules? You must go to college to have a good career, saving for a rainy day, or work weeks being 40 hours have conditioned the majority of society to think and behave in mediocre ways.
To be invincible you must dream bigger, question the brules, and forge your path with your own thinking, beliefs, and ideas.
If you don’t create a bigger vision for yourself, society will create a smaller one for you.
What brules are you living by? Question everything.
7. Self Validation
When you become secure in your foundation you no longer look outside of yourself for validation on your decisions, desires, or image.
Continue to grow your confidence not into arrogance, but into self validation so that you are your underlying motivation to keep going when times get tough.
How do you currently validate yourself?
8. No Opt-Out
When you’re invincible, you don’t give yourself the option out. Instead, the only option is through; through the difficulties, adversities, and storms. Stand on the beach and allow the tidal wave to crash over you. That’s the joy of being invincible. Ride the wave.
Gain the self discipline to keep going even when you don’t want to. Whether it’s through a workout, work challenges, or even chores, if you give yourself the option to NOT do the things you don’t want to then they’ll never get done. Even better, try doing the most difficult first. When your biggest challenge is out of the way, it makes the rest of your day much more fulfilling.
Create non-negotiables for your life that must (not need to, have to, or want to) be done.
What are you opting out of in your life?
9. Consistent Fearlessness
If you are going to answer your true calling, you must answer with fearlessness and tenacity. Most people don’t follow their dreams because they’re too afraid to start, fail, or push their boundaries.
Be fearless in the pursuit of your dreams to face any challenges that come your way with faith and confidence.
Repeat after me, I am fearless.
10. Unconditioned Happiness
If you base your happiness off of your outcomes or what’s happening ‘to you’- you’ve already lost.
To be completely invincible, you must learn how to be satisfied with where you are in your journey especially if you haven’t reached your desired destination just yet.
You must have gratitude. Look around and feel satisfaction for what you have achieved, how far you’ve come, and all you have in your life. Those feelings of satisfaction, love, and happiness will only attract more of the same success.
This is the secret to authentic invincibility. If you can gain power over your thoughts and emotions happiness becomes a byproduct. You become unstoppable. You are truly…invincible.
Your invincibility in 10 traits:
- Individuality; How can you let your light shine bright?
2. Abundant Mindset; How are you abundant?
3. Empowering Stories; What stories run through your mind on a daily basis?
4. Nourishing Habits; What habits do you exercise on a daily basis?
5. Radical Confidence; How confident are you in your capabilities?
6. Think Bigger; What brules are you living by?
7. Self Validation; How do you currently validate yourself?
8. No opt-out; What are you opting out of in your life?
9. Consistent Fearlessness; Where is fear holding you back?
10. Unconditioned Happiness; How can you be happy now?
10 Traits You Must Gain to be Invincible was originally published in The Ascent on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.
