Why do I always find something missing in the person who is right for me? Whenever we meet someone, we always try to embarce their strengths and neglect their weaknesses for the strengths should overpower them. I have always asked myself, why is it that I can't overlook a quality I don't like in a person if all of his other qualities are essentially perfect in my eyes. A few years ago, I got together with one of my best friends and it was incredible. We could talk for hours and always have something new to discuss. We spent every waking moment with one another and never got bored. He was really the first genuine guy I have ever dated that made me feel beautiful, that made me feel Loved. Growing up with such a scarcity of self esteem and confidence (which stemmed from my parent's need to belittle me and my worth), it has always been very difficult for me to trust anyone and really let myself become vulnerable to them. At first, I was skeptical about whether or not I was making the right decision by letting myself open-up to him but over time, he proved to me day in and day out that he thought the world of me and loved me more than anything. We were together for two years but the Love (on my part) began to fade as aresult of the lack of Attraction I had to him. Even after two years that we were broken up, he has always been by my side no matter what. Until this day, he still tells me how much he loves me and will never give up on the opportunity to be together once again. My ex is an incredible individual. He is smart, outgoing, friendly, caring, loyal,and most of all, incredibly understanding. The problem now is that even though he is doing everything in his power to convince me to get back together and show me that we belong together...I just can't see myself with him anymore. In terms of personality and intellect, he is perfect in my eyes. But the fact that I don't find the least bit of attraction towards him or any chemistry for that matter, prevents me from considering him again. I know that I am not being shallow because I have made numerous attempts to try to move past the lack of attraction and simply focus on how great of a guy he is. But without attraction, there is no chemistry and therefore no desire to maintain a healthy relationship (especially phyiscally)... Its hard to accept this as a fact because every other clue points out that I should be with him, that he is the one for me. I guess I will never know....what I am curious about is whether or not it makes sense to be with someone who you aren't attracted to but has the greatest attitude and personality you have ever found in a man. Does it make sense to throw away everything simply because I am not attracted to him?
-sent in by "Anonymous"
-sent in by "Anonymous"
