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Dear Carol: Both of my parents are deceased. Dad was an alcoholic who verbally Abused everyone and physically abused both of his daughters. Mom never did anything to stop it because she was afraid of him. During therapy, I’ve worked to rediscover my softer feelings for Mom because she was a victim, too, but my memories of Dad are mixed. They both loved holidays but Dad made them super fun with decorations and music (until he drank again), so it’s Dad that I associate with Thanksgiving and Christmas. I find myself aching for those good times. Before you say it, I do intend to go back to therapy, but I wanted your view though since I read your column during mom’s long decline. Thank you for whatever advice you can provide. – HS
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