Boundaries are for us, they are there to teach others how to treat and love us. They come from a place of self-worth, when we foster this, when it grows our boundaries become less negotiable. We cannot expect anyone else to treat us better than we treat ourselves. When we communicate a boundary we are not rejecting a person, we are rejecting a behaviour or an action. We are just saying what is or what is not ok. Similarly, when another person communicates a boundary, we are not being rejected we are being educated on what is or what is not ok with them. It’s not personal, even when it feels personal. We don’t need a reason from someone, like we don’t need to communicate a reason as to why we have the boundaries we have. They may be new boundaries, they may be existing, they only become real boundaries when we communicate them. When someone communicates a boundary, it is enough, they are enough, like we are enough. We don’t need a reason, like we don’t need to have a reason. Sometimes people haven’t loved us, they have loved our lack of boundaries. Sometimes we haven’t really loved a person, we have loved a lack of their boundaries. Self-worth growth fosters boundaries, boundaries foster self-worth. They are an essential part of self-development. Boundaries are not a form of rejection.

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