Losing our natural strength and trust is not our fault. We all started life just fine.

All life is powered from within. Our needs and Instincts power our behavior. Our feelings along with our instincts cause us to be kind, loyal, loving, and playful.

If we were never allowed to live from this power coming from inside us though, we have lost connection with many of these natural abilities and skills.

It happens to many, probably most of us, in these times.

People have lost the skill of nurture.

Recovery requires a supportive environment. It can’t be done without Support. People desperately need acceptance.

We can’t recover in a Toxic environment!

It’s a lack of acceptance and support for our inner life, in our early years, that has left us unconnected with our instincts, needs, and feelings now.

How could we possibly trust others enough to reconnect and express our real selves, while still not being accepted that way?

We can’t! It’s impossible!

For most of us, we need to make changes within ourselves before we are going to be accepted among healthy and loving people.

That’s because when we get no support at all, we usually become toxic. Another possibility is to pay for therapy. Then we naturally become nontoxic as we feel better.

How are we toxic? We insist on controlling the behavior of others!

Everybody wants to be free, and at the same time control everybody else!

It’s a “catch 22” for sure. That’s why so few recover.

With support, we begin the expression of those things we have hidden from view. Our feelings may be bitter, but we have a right to feel that way. Sharing our true inner lives fixes it all. There is nothing wrong with any of our basic feelings, instincts, needs, or identities.

Lack of support causes intense feelings which in turn may have caused us to behave in ways we’re not proud of. None of this was ever our fault, and we need to let go of any guilt.

Sharing our deepest feelings and fears eventually fixes everything. We get our power back as we do this. We become very likable as well.

Thanks for listening,

Good luck on your journey,

Take care,

Norm Cormier

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