Why do people hate? We don’t see that in nature!
Could it be us causing it?
It doesn’t exist in normal and natural life!
Ironically, humans are naturally the most loving creatures on earth.
There is only one thing that could cause this much hurt and Anger.
ACTUAL DAMAGE
Physical damage!
Damage could do it, causing enough anger to introduce hate!
None of us purposely cause damage!
But, we do!
We do it unknowingly!
How could we possibly be causing damage?
We have done that by choosing to see life differently than it really is!
We choose to see life as obedient!
LIFE IS NOT OBEDIENT!
All life is driven from within!
It is designed to survive, no matter what obstacles it has to overcome!
It is self-sufficient! It is self-driven!
All it wants is enough protection to give it time to succeed through its own efforts!
Try bringing up your young with that template in mind!
There will be no conflict.
There will be no defiance!
There will be a complete absence of anger or the resultant hate!
What happens if we force life to be obedient?
The consequences are catastrophic!
Life will try to find its own way, any way it can!
It will keep trying until it collapses! That’s what its been designed to do!
The form of collapse that happens is disconnection!
That identity has failed! Its energy can no longer power that life.
No longer can that identity integrate needs and instincts through its internal language of feelings.
That life has lost its driving force!
We call that driving force “self-esteem”.
HEALTH
Of course, disconnection affects health. How could it not?
It also removes awareness of needs and instincts as well as feelings!
In this condition, it would be a miracle if we could still be a loving creature!
As we are all well aware, we aren’t.
This life is now capable of atrocities!
Through damage, we have created the ability for humans to feel hate!
OUR CHILDREN
Life is designed to find its own way through any obstacle.
Make that effort impossible, and damage happens!
What else could we possibly expect?
This is what we now do with our infants.
We don’t see them as independent lives trying to survive on their own terms!
We expect obedience!
Obedience, for living things, is disaster!
PROOF
The proof is all around us, and always has been!
We choose to not see it!
Support independence, and children are loving and highly competent. Healthy too!
Insist on obedience and receive resentment, anger, defiance, and conflict without end.
These dynamics are true everywhere! Within families. Within cultures!
None of this is a secret! It’s on full display everywhere in the world!
Support your kid’s own efforts and independence, and get the best friend you will ever have!
Force instant obedience and discipline, and get a terrorist! Also poor health and loneliness along with delusional ideation!
What is therapy? It’s relearning to express our identities. Our inner world needs a voice!
Is this not proof that we should never have lost that connection?
IDENTITIES!
A strong human identity is powerful and loving.
These are now missing, in these times of obedience!
Fortunately, that’s all that’s wrong!
KINDNESS
Where does kindness come from?
It comes from human needs!
Our need to be loved and accepted is more powerful than even our survival!
When we can feel that need, we are kind by necessity! It satisfies our own longings.
When we can’t feel that need, we are free to behave as destructively as we wish!
This is our population in most places now! Is it clear that the rules we invent are not gaining on this attitude?
THE PIVOT POINT!
Support life’s need to succeed from its own energy, and get peace!
Override life’s own efforts, and get war!
We have chosen poorly!
We can change that!
Norm Cormier
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