In this episode of Abbey’s Kitchen, Abbey is talking about a question that she gets asked quite often, which is “why don’t we ever get to see baby E”. Abbey has referenced him a bunch of times and she’s talked about her experience with motherhood, but she doesn’t show images of him. Abbey wants to chat about her reasons why and this video is in no way trying to shame other moms in their decisions of showing photos of their kids. Abbey recognizes that there are a lot of benefits of sharing photos of your kids online, especially for family members that live far way and don’t get to see them on a daily basis. Abbey also wants you to know that not sharing every single milestone of her kid’s life is really hard for her. Abbey is basically a “sharent”.
(1:44) Safety
As a parent, Abbey’s number one priority is her kid’s safety. Between geo targeting and facial recognition, Abbey doesn’t want to set up her son in a scenario where his safety is at risk.
(2:34) Identity Autonomy.
Abbey feels like she doesn’t have the right to curate his digital footprint for him. Abbey is lucky to be a millennial and be able to curate her identity online. A lot of kids now have a visual brand already set up online before they even reach puberty.
(3:24) Consent
Abbey doesn’t really have the consent to share photos and videos of him. He’s just a baby and doesn’t have the capacity to consent.
(4:04) Parental Compromise
Bottom line is Abbey’s husband asked her not to put photos online. Her husband was adamant that it was personal and should be kept between family and close friends. Abbey had to respect his wishes.
(5:10) Private Facebook Group
One of the things that Abbey and her husband agreed was to create a private Facebook group with her close friends and family to see photos of baby E.
(5:46) Unidentifiable Imagery
The other thing that Abbey has been doing is occasional photos of just his hands, feet, legs or the back of his head. Abbey wants to make sure she is being genuine when it comes to social media because he makes up 90% of her life.
Abbey hopes this cleared up a lot of your questions about Baby E. She would love to hear from you. Do you share photos of your babies online. If you do or don’t, what kind of safety precautions do you have in place.
