When a Relationship breaks, we blame each other, we blame each other’s actions, we blame the flaws, and even we blame our fate. But, in the midst of all these blaming episodes, we actually forget that it takes two to make a clapping sound. We completely ignore our own faults, we forget about our insecurities which might have driven knives through the relationship, and we totally turn our backs on the fact that we also need to be blamed.

Why?

Because we are afraid of accepting that we are also at fault? Or because being a very prideful person, we can never accept that we are the cause of some devastation, or we are wrong at so many levels?

Reasons are there, a lot of actually, and the list will always go on. But what we actually need to understand is it always our fault first and then someone else’s. Blaming each other has never been a solution to something, because most of the times, we put the blames without understanding the situation or realizing what exactly had transpired. Jumping to conclusions is a habit of human beings despite having a rational mindset because when it comes to relationships, everything becomes irrational.

Insecurities and doubts are the main reasons why a relationship never lasts for a lifetime, even when we promise of walking a lifetime in the beginning. You know, these doubts are like parasites, they will cloud your rational thoughts, manipulate you in not believing a single word, which your Partner says, and creating a messy situation. And these parasitic doubts feed on your fear, your insecurities, your irrationality, and your horrors. So, if you are facing such distressing situations, then don’t ever brood over such thoughts.

Here, we have described some of the most common doubts and insecurities which ruins a Healthy Relationship completely.

1. YOU ARE INSECURE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S ACHIEVEMENTS

When your partner starts achieving more than you, you start becoming ignorant towards their success when they come to you for sharing their happiness with you. You think that with more achievements, your partner will become more popular, and people will start favoring him or her than you.

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2. YOU DOUBT THAT YOUR PARTNER IS FAVORING OTHERS OVER YOU

When your partner speaks highly of someone else in front of you, doubt creeps in your mind that perhaps, your partner is prioritizing others over you. You tolerate this for one day, one week, one month, but then suddenly your outburst, and starts blaming your partner for his behavior even when he or she didn’t favor others.

3. YOU START COMPARING YOUR PARTNER WITH OTHERS

One of the most common mistakes we all do in our relationship is by comparing our partners with others. We think that maybe there is some fault in our loved ones and that’s why the relationship is not working. And when we compare, we only consider the flaws and not the virtues. Prolonged comparison completely suppresses the virtues in our eyes.

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4. YOUR START GETTING INSECURE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S OUTSIDE LIFE

When your partner starts spending more time outside rather than at home with you, then also, you start doubting that he might be preferring his friends, colleagues, over you. You think that now because of them, you are losing importance in his or her life.

5. YOU THINK THAT YOUR PARTNER CONSIDERS YOU DUMB

If your partner mocks at you for something or calls you an idiot or dumb, you think that you are actually dumb for your partner even when they had just said that out of the blue and not with any intention of hurting you.

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6. YOU START GETTING INSECURE OF THE LESS COMMUNICATION BETWEEN YOU BOTH

If your partner talks less and doesn’t spend that much time with you like he or she used to, you think that your partner is ignoring you because of someone else. And this insecurity is one of the main causes of breaking off the relationships.

7. YOU GET INSECURE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S POPULARITY AMIDST YOUR COMMON CIRCLE

When your partner becomes more popular than you, jealousy and insecurities start creeping in your mind no matter how close you both are. After all, pride and ego work more than the considerate and rational nature of the human mind.

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8. YOU THINK THAT YOUR PARTNER IS NOT UP TO YOUR EXPECTATION

When your friends point out some fault, you start believing them and think that your partner is not up to the expectations you have. And that causes you to drift away from him or her, creating a gap between you both.

9. YOUR INSECURITY STARTS WHEN YOU THINK THAT YOUR PARTNER IS EARNING MORE THAN YOU

Money is one of the main causes of destructions, and when you think that your partner has started earning more than you and now, he or she will have more say in the relationship, you become aloof, start criticizing him or her about the earnings.

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10. YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH FOR YOUR PARTNER

When you think that you are not enough for your partner and that’s why he or she is not spending enough time with you, you go to extra lengths to make yourself better, and in the midst, you start creating aloofness between you both. 

Source

• https://markmanson.net/healthy-relationship-habits
• https://greatist.com/happiness/20-bad-habits-could-hurt-your-relationship
• https://thoughtcatalog.com/dave-elliot/2014/11/10-huge-mistakes-women-always-make-in-relationships/

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