2024-02-12 14:20
My dreams have been off the chart lately. It may be because I’m taking uridine and just getting much better sleep, in general. They’ve been wildly metaphorical and reflective of… Read More
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2021-08-20 00:32
Over the past several months, I have felt a push to share more from my heart. To give the world content that feels meaningful, important… purposeful. I’ve thought bac… Read More
2020-03-17 13:21
Continuation from Jake… (the pic above is from 2009, when I was in DC with Jake. He picked a flower and stuck it behind my ear while we were strolling downtown one evening).
I lo… Read More
2020-02-03 13:37
Continuation from Sleeping with Regret
Jake and I hit it off and began dating in early 2007. There was a lot to like about him — especially his mind. He was an independe… Read More
2020-01-30 13:39
Continuation from The end of a chapter.
The sparkle began to fade after four years of stripping. I was tired of the late nights. The smoky bars, the loud music, the bachelor parties&helli&hell…Read More
2020-01-27 14:01
Continuation from Taking it all off…
I slapped Sebastian around for the next hour, making it up as I went. He laid on the ground while I walked on his back in my stilettos. I ver… Read More
2020-01-23 13:59
Continuation from Love Triangle Fallout
I’d been dancing in bikini and topless clubs for over two years when I decided to try taking it all off. Nude clubs were a different animal… Read More
2020-01-19 13:49
Continuation from Finding myself in a love triangle….
Bryan was supposed to be out playing poker with some buddies. When I got home, his car was still gone. I was relieved. I we… Read More
2020-01-16 12:43
Continuation from Cowboy, Part 2
A few months after Eric and I broke up, I began dating another guy. His name was Bryan.
Bryan was sweet, funny, substantially older than me (15 year… Read More
2020-01-13 13:22
I took Eric home to meet my family and we went out to a steakhouse. I wasn’t sure how my mom and dad would react – he was a far cry from the pretty boys I’d dated before… Read More
2020-01-11 13:59
About a year into dancing and shortly after the development of my stripper persona, Belle, I fell in love.
With a customer.
Truthfully, I’ve only admitted this to a few people… Read More
2020-01-06 08:38
I didn’t need a stripper persona when I first started dancing. The bikini bars I worked at were tame, the customers were well-behaved, and the girls were relatively friendly.
Whe… Read More
2020-01-01 22:49
I made $70 my first night as a dancer.
$70.
My first club wasn’t really a strip club – it was a bikini club, which was like training wheels for real stripping (in topless… Read More
2019-12-29 14:50
I was browsing YouTube a few nights ago and a video from a stripper was in my feed. Curious, I clicked on it and watched a “get ready with me” video of a young (maybe 19 year-ol… Read More
2019-12-19 22:19
A couple nights ago, I watched the documentary Iron Cowboy. It’s about James Lawrence, a superhuman who completed 50 Ironmans (Ironmen?) in 50 days – one in each U.S. state. He… Read More
2019-12-17 13:35
Let’s see… the last update I wrote was back in September, when I was adventuring in Colorado and convinced I was going to permanently move out west.
A lot has happened since… Read More
2019-11-13 11:52
I love to be ready for things. Love it. I love planning. I love making lists. I love researching – OH do I love researching.
I love learning everything I can possibly learn a… Read More
2019-09-12 21:39
I was driving east around October of last year, cruising through New Mexico with no real plans for what was next, when I heard a song for the first time. It was Randy Houser’s “… Read More
2019-08-12 21:35
I’m lost. I have slowly lost myself over the last few months, and… I don’t know. It feels all sorts of fucked up.
This is why I’ve barely posted anything. I&rs&hell…Read More
2019-07-27 21:41
It’s been a while since my last posts (which I removed because they were not particularly nice, but may re-post soon). The last few months have been interesting. My business has kept… Read More
2019-05-15 23:41
I had been dating a guy for a few months. The L-word was exchanged (whatever that even means anymore). We had some pretty intense “disagreements.” I broke up with him a month… Read More
2019-05-11 23:39
Ah, well… here we are. Another newbie relationship has ended.
I have an unpublished manuscript chronicling my relationship hits and misses over the years, from my very first lov… Read More
2019-04-02 00:25
I remember a few years ago when I was putting on a lot of muscle in gym. I had tapped into that difficult-to-achieve state where you’re simultaneously putting on muscle and burning fa… Read More
2019-04-01 01:03
Hormone hell.
noun: the place everyone woman of menstruating age finds herself on a monthly basis. Generally, hormone hell becomes exceedingly excruciating as a woman progresses into her… Read More
2019-02-06 00:52
As with any story, a degree of background is necessary to contextualize the events that I share in the following pages. This is a story of redemption and healing. In order to ris… Read More
2019-02-05 01:34
In light of the intense reactions to the Gillette commercial – and the concept of “toxic masculinity” – I think its important to have a follow-up discussion about &ld&hell…Read More
2019-01-22 23:13
My last post on the Gillette commercial and toxic masculinity prompted some strong responses – which I expected. These are good conversations to have, opportunities to spend some time… Read More
2019-01-22 02:13
Last week, Gillette joined the growing force of U.S. companies who have used their large platforms and marketing dollars to launch powerful social commentaries. And like the commercial featu… Read More
2019-01-18 23:44
In light in the insanity going on around us, I want to share a short, sweet story from my day.
As some of you know, I don’t own a television. I made the decision to ditch mine a de… Read More
2019-01-08 00:47
When I was in college, I met my boyfriend on a dating website. His name was Dave.
It was 2002.
This basically made me a trailblazer of online dating. I was dating online before it was… Read More
2019-01-04 13:21
Several months ago, I was talking with a friend about being “triggered” – that feeling when someone says something to you that brings up strong emotions surrounding past ex… Read More
2018-12-30 20:05
As 2018 wraps up, I’ve spent the last couple days reflecting on the passage of yet another year. Although it seems that each year goes by faster than the previous, the speed of 2018 wa… Read More
2018-11-12 22:44
I just wanted to write a quick post about marijuana and how profoundly it has changed my world. Seriously.
I started experimenting with it more this summer while I was in Colorado and… Read More
2018-11-10 13:16
**Since this snippet is from a couple chapters into my manuscript, here’s the context:
My dad committed suicide in mid-August of 2009. I had just moved to Gainesville to start gr… Read More
2018-11-10 12:53
I had a long chat with a dear friend last night who was recently side-swiped by someone who is, at best, a highly dysfunctional human being, and at worst, a sociopath. I listened as he… Read More
2018-11-06 11:37
You heard (read) that correctly. I moved. Into a house. Like a legitimate adult.
Let’s backtrack a bit before we get all huffy and worried about my abandonment of #RV… Read More
2018-10-06 03:14
I loved you.
I loved you with a fierceness I can’t quite describe.
You’re the one, the one that I never stopped loving. I’m convinced that you’re the reason all… Read More
2018-09-25 12:23
I’m weaving pics I took from a sunset at Hart Prairie (near Flagstaff, AZ) throughout this post.
Last week, during my existential birthday meltdown (what am I doing with my life? Is th… Read More
2018-09-23 14:30
I’ve been dealing with some gremlins the last couple of years. I like to deal with them privately, you know, under the cloak of night or when I’m alone during long walks in… Read More
2018-07-22 14:33
I started writing a post on May-December relationships and I felt pulled in a different direction as I thought back on some of my past loves. Sit tight for May-December, I’ll fin… Read More
2018-07-17 14:53
I was mindlessly scrolling through my Facebook feed when I came across a photo of an acquaintance that was unrecognizable. Her face was so airbrushed, had so much of that glowing hue t… Read More
2018-07-07 23:52
I try to keep this blog upbeat and positive, but I also strive to be totally transparent and honest in my writing. Sometimes, this blog is nothing more than a sounding board … t… Read More
2018-07-02 14:35
A few months ago, I was doing some research on social media marketing and came across a guy named Gary Vaynerchuk, known my many as “Gary V.” From what I learned in my &hell…Read More
2018-06-27 21:54
I was hiking on East Inlet trail in Grand Lake, Colorado a couple of days ago when I encountered a moose. Or maybe more accurately, a moose encountered me. It was one of the most… Read More
2018-06-25 16:27
Today I wrote the 12th of my 100 living tributes. If you haven’t read my original post about my tributes for the living, you can find it here. So far, this has been an awesome experien… Read More
2018-06-22 16:26
Riding a bicycle is such a perfect metaphor for life. I mean, there are countless famous quotes that compare bicycling to life. Some of my favorites are:
Life is like riding a bi… Read More
2018-06-12 14:07
Hey all! It’s been a minute since I’ve had a chance to write – I’ve had a lot of client projects going, traveled out to Colorado, and have since been wrestling… Read More
2018-05-22 10:56
I distinctly remember the moment when I no longer wanted to live. I wasn’t just a little sad, or in a rut, or going through a rough patch – I truly wanted to die.
It was th… Read More
2018-05-21 11:55
Yesterday was another rainy afternoon in Florida – a good day, I figured, to try out a sensory deprivation tank. Floating was something I’d wanted to do for a whi… Read More
2018-05-15 13:04
Over the last couple of years, I’ve noticed I seem to attract a lot of, what I can only describe as, human succubus. I’m talking about those people who suck everything out… Read More
2018-05-07 11:32
I spent the last four days in a writing fury, committed to taking on the parts of my book proposal that seemed most daunting. I noticed myself feeling like an imposter during the proce… Read More
2018-05-04 11:24
I wanted to write a post about perfectionism in my confidence series because it’s one of the biggest confidence killers there is. You know how I’ve been droning on and on a… Read More
2018-05-02 11:06
The time is finally near. The time to, once again, take on the open road.
I’m so excited I can’t stand it!
I wasn’t planning on staying in Florida more than a m… Read More
2018-04-30 12:46
Keeping an ex in your social networks is like a dragging around a stinking heap of psychological baggage (which, turns out, is not a sexy accessory). If you’re someone who has th… Read More
2018-04-26 11:22
*Let me begin by saying I love men, and I want them to feel confident. This post is not an attack on male confidence at all. Rather, it’s a look at the differences between m… Read More
2018-04-24 09:56
I just finished reading The Confidence Code, by Claire Shipman and Katty Kay. All women should read this book, especially mothers of girls and those who are struggling with their… Read More
2018-04-19 11:03
*This post is a continuation of You’re fired! – if you haven’t read that yet, check it out. This post will make much more sense if you do
So the first order of affair… Read More
2018-04-18 11:16
I was recently talking with a friend about my last job as the marketing manager for an insurance firm in St. Pete. My last job, like so many before it, from which I was fired. Th… Read More
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