Many of the Problematic Situations we find ourselves in are the result of the Bad Choices we have made in the past. When Problems Persist. Are You Making Bad Choices? Have you noticed that the same problems keep coming up in your relationships or at work? Maybe you’re someone who keeps regaining the weight that you’ve lost or whose blood sugar is managed for a while but then invariably is out of control again? Maybe you repeatedly experience bullying by your boss or colleagues? Maybe you keep choosing friends or a partner who treats you poorly?   Have you ever wondered why the same problems keep reoccurring in your personal and professional life? There’s a very simple and straightforward answer to this: You’re making the same bad choices, over and over again. So, if that’s the answer, how do you solve the problem? Well, the solution is also simple, but it takes some work. To get out of the repeating cycle of problematic situations in your life, you need to be making choices from the part of your brain that is logical, practical and reasonable, as opposed to the part that’s impulsive, irrational, self-critical and impractical. Think of the brain as being theoretically divided into the adult, child and parent parts. The adult part is the logical, rational part whose decisions make a lot of sense. The child part is the primitive, impulsive part whose decisions are all about what’s familiar, what’s easiest and what feels best at the moment; the parent part is the critical voice that tells you what you “should” do and fills you with guilt, shame, obligation, and self-doubt. When the child part or parent part of your brain is in charge of making your choices, you’re going to keep creating problems for yourself. The child...

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