I know the idea of saying “do not chase women,” for some may seem like that is not the manly thing to do. We are taught, much by society, that men make the moves; we take action, we make the initiative.

This may come down to evolution and that men were the warriors, the seekers, the ones to initiate when they want something.

We are the aggressors, they are passive.

However, in today’s society, especially in the west, the idea of Chasing Women doesn’t hold well, especially with all the equality push that we hear from much of society.

The debunked argument that women earn less than men doing the same job and working the same hours is a bold-face life that is constantly spewed in mainstream media ad naseum.

And if this were true, “then you’d think most business would just hire women, so that they could cut down on cost.” – Thomas Sowell

This is just a bold-faced lie, but I digress.

In a society (western society) where men and women are equal, the idea of chasing after anyone’s love is a bit ludicrous and makes no sense.

Yes, some women are reserved and need a bit of show that a guy is interested — and there are some of us guys out there who know what we want.

However, I believe that it should be a mutual meeting of two people who WANT to be with one another when it comes to love.

It should not be a game of “Catch me if you can.”

In this article, I want to express why we do not chase women and what we can do to find the right women for us.

This game of catch me if you can is what kids do, and this, especially in today’s social and political climate, should not even be a thing.

If we are all equal, as we are and should be, the idea of chasing after love because we are the man makes no sense.

She may very well be a prize, but so are we, and there is no shame in us admitting we are just as much of a catch as she is.

Do Not Chase Women: 7 Reason Why You Should Not

1 – With A Toxic Women You Chasing Can Equal You Stalking

There is a very thin line that separates us from being desirous of her and desperate for her. The former can come off as charming, and the latter can come off as repulsive.

Chasing after a female can easily be seen, later on by her, as you stalking her and harassing her.

And if you are dealing with a toxic female or narcissistic female, this is something she will later be able to use against you to make you seem like a brute, a creep, a stalker.

Females like them love playing the victim, and almost anything we say or do, they will be able to use as their ammo against us to put us in a light that they have desired us to be in.

Chasing after women can be flirtatious, but this can immensely backfire on you with the wrong female.

Beware of these women because they will make your life a living hell!

2 – Her Teasing Shows Where Her Emotional Level Is At (Chaos To Come)

Teasing is a clear sign of where her emotional development is. What she may think is cute, or society may think is cute is in actuality very childish.

Girls are cute. Women are beautiful, and with their beauty comes a certain demeanor about her that makes us crave her.

Teasing should not be attractive as it is a huge red flag as to what is to come later on in a relationship.

The immature arguing and fighting for the sheer sake of drama will come later on if you finally catch her.

Fish in a lake of piranha and expect not to get bitten is foolhardy.

The stress, depression, and anxiety you will BRING into your life, later on will be regretted.

3 – The Time You Spend Chasing Her Could Be Used Building A Healthy Relationship Elsewhere

I often spout how “time is all we have” and that it is really our most excellent tool and commodity in life.

It makes no sense at all for anyone to spend so much time chasing after one female when there are literally thousands of potential women that you can be in a Healthy Relationship with right now.

There is plenty of good fish out in the ocean for you to catch and who will not try and eat you alive.

Chasing after one woman because of this fictional Hollywood nonsense “The One” will make you regret it later on in life.

We get one chance at life.

There are no redoes with this thing called life.

How we spend our time should be used to the best of our ability.

You will not always be able to manage your time effectively, but when given the opportunity of your own volition, you should consider is it worth it.

How you spend your time matters because the time you waste, you can never get it back.

Once it is gone, it is gone forever.

4 – There Is No “The One”

The romantic nonsense argument that “She’s the one” is fictitious nonsense that has caused so many people to try and make things work or to try and fix toxic broken relationships.

This is something we must stop doing, believing that there is only one person out there for us.

That is an insane idea, especially when you consider how much of a bubble so many of us live in.

A fish in a well can never conceive of the ocean.

If you had the chance to meet all the women you could potentially have a healthy relationship with, based on chemistry, you’d see it would not just be one person.

As a matter of fact, it would be thousands, hundreds of thousands of women out there that you could potentially have a healthy relationship with.

This notion that there is only one woman out there for you is a joke argument and is purely imaginative.

Once you realize this, you will see that no one is worth chasing after for that long.

5 – If She Really Was Into You, You Would Have To Chase

She may just not be into you, and you need to accept that. Sometimes they string you along just so that they can hurt your feelings.

Some girls want to be chased but never want to be caught.

It is the thrill of being desired and being desired by anyone that oftentimes makes them behave in ways that make it seem like she is into us, but in reality, she is just into the idea of us chasing her.

Two attempts is the rule I go by.

I try two times with a girl, and if she shows she is not interested, I move on.

Again, if you are dealing with a toxic woman, she can use that against you later on and say you were stalking or harassing her.

If she is interested, she will meet you; if she is not, just go your separate ways.

6 – Your Self Esteem Will Take A Hit

Your self-esteem and ego will take a huge hit later on after realizing what a fool you have been.

And I say this not as an attack because we ALL have played the fool.

Everybody plays the fool…sometimes.

There’s no exceptions to the rules.

Joking aside, we do not chase after women because it makes us seem needy, and it slowly conditions us into believing that we must have her in our life and thus truly become needy.

Keep your head up, fellow empathic men. There is no shame in loving someone as we do, but there is in NEEDING someone else to love to feel whole.

If you have done this, it’s okay. You are not the only one to behave or feel like this.

We have all…played the fool.

7 – Life Is Too Short To Play These Childish Games

We get once shot at life, and the idea of wasting it, trying to get someone to love us is an insane way of thinking.

There are so many good women out there for us.

Yes, it can hard finding her, but that…THAT is what makes her special when we do find her.

It will be a meeting of two mature adults coming together to have a healthy relationship.

This idea of chasing her for love will only set you back in life and rob you of your life, your self-esteem, your time, and a healthy relationship with someone else.

Take the time to write down what it is that you want in a woman; characteristically wise, of course.

Jot down things that you see as red flags, create a list of boundaries that you will set up, and not allow anyone to cross, and meditate/ or pray (whatever is your fancy).

Do things that you enjoy doing because most times, you will find her by doing the things you love.

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