I believe these eureka moments don’t show up to prove us wrong, there can be no wrong way of looking at life ,can it ? they show up to create a moment for us, the moment of realization.
A question that I come across often (& often i am the one posing that question to myself ) is about finding happiness. Am sure that's a common dialogue between us and the voice in our heads. finding happiness can be quite a task, keeping it once found, well that’s another story.
There have been two moments in my recent past when both me and the voice in my head have agreed to just be quiet and let the moment of realisation seep in , both these have been interactions with children , children whose parents earn (or used to earn when they were alive) way below the national average income .
MOMENT 1 : Every Diwali there's an influx of children who come with their families selling flowers and diyas .Their presence was unnoticed by me till three years ago when a dear friend, Ruchi Srivastava took the initiative of distributing Food boxes to these kids who live on the sidewalk for the duration of this festive migration and help their parents earn.
There was not one child who did not thank us for the food or who wasn’t curious why we were doing this.
We in fact were doing this for ourselves and that what all the students eventually realised, while we started out to fill in for a need on the streets we eventually filled up our souls with gratitude; the happiness that the students got was really moving.
My eureka moment that made me realise that our need to give is born out of our need to get(actually borrow, a little bit of happiness from these children )
There was apparently a test with 12 questions to check on how they had fared in their food classes, which various chefs had taken n the last 8 weeks . To me the questions seemed largely unfair to be asked to a bunch of 10-12 year olds and the silence that ensued post question paper distribution confirmed it for me , i stayed back just out of curiosity with no expectations. To make it easier on the kids i didn’t check the papers and started a discussion hoping to make them feel better for not knowing . what happened next moved me to tears ,suddenly everyone was excited to answer and everyone had the right answers . the reason for silence that i mistook for not knowing was for responsibly relaying what they had learnt and the quiet focus was on winning this challenge that had been posed . I had never heard a better explanation of how chocolate was made that i heard from a 9 year olds mouth . the process of fermentation was explained to me in a way that i had no more to ask . then i saw all answer sheets they had all questions answered in all papers . here i was trying to make them feel comfortable for not knowing where the only person to not know was me myself. lesson learnt - knowledge is not a function of resources available , its a function of commitment to learning which occurs in the human mind , the space where theres no rich or poor - only purity , love and happiness .
Life is about learning from the learned and i feel both silly and wiser now having learnt from more learned children around me (All thanks to people who take a stand for me and to Ruchi and Rushina who catalysed this learning for me)
(AS MUCH ID LIKE TO THINK OTHERWISE , ENGLISH IS STILL A FUNNY LANGUAGE FOR ME ,EXCUSE MY IGNORANCE WITH SPELLINGS AND WORD USAGE)