The one thing I have learnt is that people will treat you the way you allow them to. The more you bend and oblige, the more you will be taken advantage of. A lot of people resent this, but they still continue the same pattern of behaviour, getting metaphorically kicked over and over. They aren't assertive enough to state what they want and so they continue tolerating the irritants.

Many of us are afraid to state our opinions, afraid to say a no. We're afraid of confrontations. We're afraid to be disliked.

I grew up in an era where there was no television (let alone the Internet). All our knowledge came from books. A book which I read when I was very young (probably 17 or 18) was Don't say Yes when you want to say No.

I remember I had practised all the exercises in the  book and it  helped me a lot. I don't remember what the book said as it was over a 30 years ago that I read it, but I remember it being useful and helpful. (click on the title of the book for the amazon link)

Now that I am a successful author, I have to say no a lot of times. People are extremely demanding. I don't mean to sound boastful but I have over a 40K followers on Instagram and  get a LOT of unreasonable requests every single day. Mind you, from the point of view of the person who is asking the requests are very reasonable. They think it is just one request which will take me a few minutes (from their point of view) and they don't ever see it from my perspective--that I get hundreds of such requests that it is just not possible to oblige all.

If you want to be kind to yourself, you have to learn to say no. You can't do it all. You don't have to do it all. Just practice saying no, but be kind.  It might be difficult at first, but you will soon see benefits. Read the books for tips!

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