In my grad years I gave a lot of emphasis on studying Relationship and the role of psychology in it.

How do couples behave?? Why are they together??  & Why do they part ways?

In psychology, there are 5 stages in a relationship . I have shared a link which gives you a broader picture of it. In case you are a part of a successful relationship.

I have been in Couple of unsuccessful relationships ( also known as relationshit) and witnessed or performed the drama that you go through in such relationshits.But this blog post will be a shout out to people who generally are away from the relationshit and how they look at these couples.

There is huge difference in the stages of relationship when it comes to relationship in the west and Indian relationship, and the credit goes the skewed sex ratio of our country and our twisted concepts about friends with benefits and one night. My understanding of the subject comes from peronal and observation study,

The sequence that psychology in any successful relationship is given below, I won’t give you the details as I have shared the link above:

• The Romance Stage
• The Power Struggle Stage
• The Stability Stage
• The Commitment Stage
• The Co-Creation or Bliss Stage

Stages of unsuccessful Indian Relationship are: 

Stage 0: Pre-mature stage

This is the stage where a needy guy is asking all his friends “Bhai baat karvaade na”. No matter how many girls he talks to. His phone has all the dating apps and more, you name it, Tinder, Love Me app, Jeevansaathi, Touch me slowly app, etc. So this guy is not very charming, girls try to maintain their distances because they know about the concept of “chep” and “chomu” guys, but suddenly one fine day this guy finds a prospect. So they start talking, and there has been two or three dates and the guy is already in love but the girl is in “he’s a nice guy” or “just friends” stage. This relationship can result either in A or B:

A: The guy being thrown in pit called Friendzone where guy gets nothing but a consolation prize of just picking and dropping her at places, doing her assignments and listening about her crushes while still hoping she’ll come along. And hope is a dangerous thing my friend.

B: The guy woos the girl and is a changed man.

Stage 1: “Love me like you do” stage

In this stage, the couple is quite in love and this love is very visible on their faces, in their conversations, in other people’s conversations and most of all on the dreaded social media. And their friends get the worst of all details. They get to hear all about their love all the fucking time. And trust me, it is annoying. That “Shona Babu” shit that gets thrown around all over the place. Even their friends will know what they ate last night and it wasn’t food. Cafeteria and restaurants witness the annoyingly feeding of adult infants.

Stage 2: The #jealousy #tummeriho #tummereho #posessivelife stage:

This is a stage where one of both the parties are very insecure about losing their “love of their lives”. Phones are checked, wallets are checked, cross-interrogation is there, detectives emerge, polygraph tests. All the knowledge from Sherlock and Lie to me come into picture. There’s always a tension and their friends start learning about the drama and they get their weekly gossip doses. But all is good because they make out and make up.

Stage 3: The Mummy stage

Don’t worry nobody dies or converts into a a body of a human being or animal that has been ceremonially preserved by removal of the internal organs.

Instaed this stage appears early on the girl’s side. Her mom will somehow find out about the relationship and there goes the romance goes out of the window. Now mom becomes the detective. The girl is sometimes grounded, interrogated and taunted. The “log kya kahenge” is thrown around a lot. The girl starts to doubt everything. The guy doesn’t understand as he just wants one thing and there is all that “raita” spread around on the relationship. For a lot of relationship die because everything is too much to deal with as result of which they mutually part ways. On the advanced level of this stage, the girl gets “roka-ed” with someone else.

Stage 4: The “Kalesh” Stage

As the name suggest, they are defiantly not ending up together and here starts the drama with a lot of name calling and crazy abuses thrown at each other. Blame Game is strong in this stage where the parties blame each other for devastating their lives. Unfortunately, friends are also dragged into it. Phone numbers are blocked but stalking continues. Facebook status are updated to either “It’s complicated or single” the middleman(wingman, vichola) is cursed to death.

Lastly, these people download the apps mentioned in Stage 0 again and that’s how the story ends for the Unsuccessful couple.

As you might know the psessimsit in me is still alive and kicking . I definatey would never hurt someone’s feeling, if you are hurt leave a comment or we can take it on over emails. This includes the couple angry texts I have received over 3 days.

Well, here I was summing the sad Unsuccessful Relationships, I am sure some of you are having  a blast in one if not Sorry to burst your BUBBLE!!

Do you want to suggest a topic for my next Blog Post!!??

I am waiting so don’t make it FOREVER!!