Hey everyone and Welcome to Thoughts of Cromwell. Hello, my name is Lamina Precious from Lamina’s Thoughts. If you haven’t heard of my blog, it’s an inspiration and empowerment blog that talks about different life issues and showcases talent from different angles. As you already know, this is the second episode of the post previously written on Lamina’s Thoughts by David Cromwell. If you haven’t read it, you can click here. The previous post was about the concept of being single from a guy’s point of view. In today’s post, I am going to be talking about being single from a girl’s point of view, this should be really interesting. I start with this quote:

“There are worse things than being alone. But it often takes decades to realize this and most often when you do, it’s too late. And there is nothing than too late”.

There is no doubt that being single is not the preferred lifestyle for most us. It’s nice to have that special someone to give you a hug when you need one, share your everyday thoughts and feelings with and a reliable plus one for outings. But apart from the natural feelings that come to all of us when we’re missing the romantic part of life. Singleness often creates a totally unnecessary emotional burden. It comes from a common perception that being single somehow implies being less happy or less worthy. Well, that perception is very wrong and you know it too. But if you believe in this misconception and let it have power on you, it can create a lot of anxiety, frustration and insecurity. Even make you believe something is wrong with you as a person because you seemingly can’t find a partner. As a single girl, there is no question that I hear all the time:

“You’re so great, why don’t you have a boyfriend?”

Sincerely I have met a lot of single people, and being single is something that people in this generation don’t want to be. The way some people reluctantly wear their single status, you will think it is something to be escaped and avoided at all cost. It’s a shame that so many people view relationships as the best part of life. Some even say being single is really sad and I’m like what??? . Being single allows you to experience so much that is often not possible when you are in a Relationship. I know a few single people that feel they are missing a lot of things especially when they see one of their friends in a relationship and they always say, “I wish I had that”. Who wouldn’t wish they had a really nice relationship but since you don’t that does that mean you should beat yourself up?

At one point in my life, I actually thought a girl without a relationship is a very sad one but as time went on I realized that is not true. I came to that realization not because I was single to stupor but because when you cannot find a good fit for you. Being single gives you the opportunity to:

• Work on yourself: When I say work on yourself, I mean that you should try to build yourself up to a mature level at which when you are in a relationship the lucky guy will appreciate you more.
• Discover who you truly are: What are your qualities? Both good and bad. What are your plans?
• Become self-reliant: You should be able to do stuff by yourself without depending on a guy all the time. Learn to do stuff by yourself!
• Love yourself: This is a very important quality you need to possess, if you can’t love yourself you can’t learn to love another person.

Basically, the point of the first and second episode of this topic is not to make you feel sad about being single. It’s just about showing the benefits of being single and showing you guys that it is not bad it’s just an opportunity to help yourself grow. One thing that David said in guys part of this post that I really captured was that, “Being single is a blessing in disguise”.

I hope you single pringles out there learnt something out of this post. If you have any comment please drop it below and click the follow button. Thank you so much for reading!