Good day and welcome to my blog. So, I’ve been carried away for the past week and it really hindered everything for me. I think now I’ve gotten a little bit of breathing space so I decided to make a post on it, with hopes that it could help someone out there who might be in my shoes or about to be in my shoes or who knows, has taken a lot more steps than I have in these shoes. What am I talking about? Let’s just say I finally got to understand what it meant for “the chips to be down” and this post is just to give you a couple of things that would help you get through it.

This phrase needs no introduction, it simply means when you find yourself in a very difficult Situation. So in my experience, what happened was that my dad fell sick, like really sick. With school sneaking up around the corner, it wasn’t our best moment in our family. And for me, let’s just say it brought out a side of me I hadn’t seen. And I don’t mean this in a bad way, I mean I got to discover who David Cromwell truly is. So I guess there’s merit to these kind of situations. You might have a different experience, might be death of a loved one, a broken heart, lost job and so on but if you use what I write in this post you’ll get through. One thing you need to know is what doesn’t kill, you will only make you stronger.

Now, for me I started having thoughts I haven’t had before, imagining all sorts. And if you’re in that kind of situation you are bound to think like that. You are bound to question everything because everything you once knew would seem to be crumbling down. So, let’s talk about what you need to pull through:

• You need to know fully well that you are going to pull through, whatever you might be facing, is all a phase and it would end one day. You need to know that it gets dark before you see the light so no matter how dark it gets, light is around the corner. I know it’s easier said than done, trust me I do, but constant affirmation and confidence in your ability will make it easier for you. Keep telling yourself “It’s all a phase, it’ll soon be over”.
• You need to have an eye out for the good. A change in perspective is what I mean. An eye to spot the good in overwhelming bad will make you swim comfortably in life’s strongest tides. The truth we remain oblivious to is the fact that for whatever situation you might find yourself in, there’s always something to be happy about, all you need to do is learn to find it. For instance, instead of seeing a blackout as darkness, see it as a chance to get in touch with your inner light or an opportunity for you to come up with a solution to blackouts forever. That type of mindset is what you need to be in control of life. But it takes practice, so you need to start from the little things to frame your mind that way.
• You need true relationships. I’ve come to notice that these days, we keep relationships like farmers with sheep, we keep them for quantity instead of quality. And for situations like when the chips are down, the reverse is what you need. You don’t want to end up in a difficult or maybe life threatening situation to discover you never maintained a true relationship with anyone to share it with. Good news is you can start now. Find that one person or as many as you please, that you can confide in about your deepest secrets, someone that would know you in and out, that would pick you up when you’re down and be careful because the wrong person might be your greatest undoing . And when you’ve found the right person, build that true relationship so when the chips are down, which will one day happen, you can know that at least one soul would be there for you through thick and thin.
• Another thing I learnt is that no knowledge is wasted. All the books I read and speeches I listened to, answered for me when some situations came calling. I had to learn to be strong for someone when I felt I was barely strong enough for myself. But the books I read especially Attitude is everything taught me how to see the good in the bad, to be cheerful and so on. They gave me wisdom when mine was exhausted. So my advice is, as you go through life, read a book or two, you never know when you’ll need it.
• Last thing is, Be Happy. Many of us get carried away by who we want to be or what we want to have that we forget that life’s main aim is to be happy. The same feeling of accomplishment you get from building a house is the same you get from building a chair you’ve always wanted to, so why kill yourself about what you don’t have, when you have so much to be happy for. We need to stop putting such high price tags on our happiness unless our happiness would be really hard to come by. Be happy for the little things. Chase your passion and every step of the way, you’d be happy. Be happy cause life is short and its a journey not a destination. Don’t limit your reward to the finishing line when you can reward yourself all through the journey. Be happy!!

So that’s it, I hope I was able to help anyone out there going through a difficult situation and everyone who read this post. If you loved it, the comment box is and will always be yours, let me know. And if you’re new to this blog, hit that Follow button and make sure to confirm from your e-mail address for non-bloggers.

Have a lovely day.